Who should kiss my baby?
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They say whoever kisses the baby should be kissing the mom too. 😆There’s absolutely no way I’m letting anyone kiss my baby for the first few months. Too much risk. As much as I want to allow grandparents to kiss, it’s for the babies safety to postpone it, not forever, just until the immune system is a little stronger.
i’m even nervous to kiss my own baby so i’m hoping everyone else understands the risks !! 🤞🏼 have no fear in telling anyone NO, your baby not theirs x
I’ve never kissed any of my kids on the lips- it’s not necessary. I kiss their cheeks and heads but I’ve always been over cautious about them getting unwell. No one else is allowed to kiss their lips either and if anyone tried I’d shut it down whether it was my family or my husbands.
To be honest I was fairly lax about letting our parents kiss our child (excepting my husband's dad and stepmom, but they weren't interested anyway lol). Yeah, there is some risk involved, but everyone who got that close to her within the first few months knew the risks, always washed their hands, made sure they were up to date on immunizations, and avoided us if they showed even the slightest possibility of being ill. I think there is some inherent value in letting grandparents show affection to babies, even to the point of kissing them, that it's good for their bonding and emotional development, and that it helps them feel safe and loved and surrounded by community. They are naturally exposed to a lot of germs early on anyway that we can't control. But I also understand parents have reservations, and I respect every parent's choice. My kid has only been sick a couple of times, once from an unavoidable business trip to the states (thanks, America), so she's obviously fine.
@Hannah yeah but the child is his too should my want and boundaries I want for our child be overthrown by his wants?
@Mama A yeah I’m not okay with any lips but just kissing face or hands
I think to your question of whether your wants should supercede his, in this case you should err on the side of caution. If one parent isn't on board then you both should stick to that boundary. If it was him that wanted the boundary I would say the same thing - neither parent should have to sacrifice a valid caution for their baby's health.
Pretty much any pediatrician would say no kissing except mom and dad. Blame it on the doctor to make it less awkward to communicate to family if they need to be reminded. Hopefully they have common sense. I’ve never needed to specifically tell anyone in our family not to kiss either of our children.