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i do feel like this too, i would say reach out to your gp for help! it is so hard, you can't help but just want to drive away and spend time to yourself. it sounds like you're doing A LOT, don't put yourself down. motherhood is the hardest thing and seeing others online with their seemingly "perfect" babies just makes you feel that much more of a failure as a mother. i'm always open for a chat and to be here for you when times are rough like this. i completely relate and am not judging whatsoever, take some time to make yourself a GP appointment to talk through your feelings and your options ❤️
thank you so much honestly🥺 its so nice to hear that some other mums relate sending hugs xxx
When my LG was that age she had many nights where she’d just be up for hours. To be honest I gave up trying to get her back to sleep so we’d come in the living room and she’d go in her travel cot with a few small toys and the tv on really low. She was quite happy to do that and would fall back to sleep within half an hour. I then went and cleaned the kitchen or the bathroom or something because I was awake at that point. It honestly was really nice to have them early hours completely on my own. I’d put something on my phone to watch in the background and just have time for me. Then the pair of us would just nap thru the day together. And reach out to your friends and just see what the response is. I know they don’t always want to do things with a baby (I’m 20 so I understand) but one of my closest friends adores my LG and she comes to soft plays with me and we all go for lunch together and it’s really nice. If they don’t want to do that then it might be time for them to go xx
I feel you sis I have good days and bad days but being a mother is a huge life change and responsibility and there are definitely days I wish I had a time Time Machine and could be a free person again 😭🤣 it’s completely normal to feel this way don’t feel guilty at all. I’m turning 25 this year and none of my friends have kids either and I feel like naturally I’m not wanting to be around them as much because it makes me miss my old life even more but I’m trying not to isolate myself. We just have to push through and be resilient and try not to be tough on ourselves on our bad days
The first year is TOUGH. I found around 6-10 months some of the toughest months of my life. You are not alone. And I promise it does get much easier. My little boy is 2 now but I look back on the first year wondering how I got through it both mentally and physically!
honestly these comments have made me feel miles better thank you mama’s💕
I always say being a mum is the most challenging but rewarding thing I've ever done. I remember my first being 9 months and feeling like I just wanted to get 'me' back. The nights will get easier and you will get moments to yourself back. I always listen to a good podcast at night (makes things a little easier). I'm 30 and most of my friends don't have children and are living a totally different life. Lean on friends and family when you can. You've got this.
think back to past moments in your life - how many seasons did you think you were stuck in that you can look back at now and see you’re on the other side of? MANY! like everything, these are just seasons that will move and pass with time. keep your head up and focus on the good memories you want to make with your baby and then before you know it, you’ll be in another season and hopefully a happier one xxx
It will get better 🩷. I became a mom at 21. My baby was SO CLINGY. I absolutely hated it for the first several years. My son is 4 now, and I love being his mom. He sleeps through the night, is potty trained, and is able to clearly verbalize his wants & needs. He is funny, helpful, and loving. The first 3 years are hard, but it will get better.
I used to compare this time period to *quite literally* being in the trenches. Granted my daughter had colic, sleeping, and sensory issues from day 1, but doing it alone is super draining! Do you have any form of community, family or friends to give you a break now and then? If not maybe reach out to locals moms in the area because doing it alone is HARD. If possible, take a little time for you and relax, eat a healthy meal, or simply exist. You’re not a bad mom, just a mom.
Completely understandable to feel this way the sleep deprivate and your hormones play a big rule, your life's completely changed don't be so hard on ya self the fact that you feel bad like ur being a bad mum is showing that your actually a good mum for caring so much.
You are definitely not alone! Being a mom is the hardest job in the world and no kidding, it is so so lonely. Specially the nights! I promise you it will get better once the baby becomes a toddler (in a few short months) and you will be able to do a bit of self care here and there as they become more independent. If there is anyone on this planet who can take care of the baby and be a mum to that baby, it’s you! Are you able to take the baby to parks, drive, salon etc by yourself? I have learned that as much as I try to involve my toddler in my life, things seem to be a little easier. He gets tired, gets fresh air, spends quality time and sleeps well after all that. Stay strong…you’re almost there!