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Absolutely NOT. That’s child abuse. A child who does this lacks empathy, your job as a parent is to develop empathy in them for others. You teach them that it’s wrong by being firm but kind. You also make them apologize to the other child and make it up to them. Doing it back is the worst thing you can do.
No. I would remove all access to the internet (if they have any) for at least 3 months. Me, I would do 6 months. We will then find classes/ courses that talk about bullying (yes, this exist). Next, depending on why they were bullying (say they were calling someone poor or whatever) I’m going to find a volunteer program so they can see, speak to, and understand the emotions families (especially kids) face. And how bullying is adding in to the hardship they’re already in. I will not allow my child to continue doing extra curriculum if they’re in any. Self reflection! My child will come to your home and apologize to the WHOLE family. My child will write ME an apology letter, themselves a letter on how to handle themselves at school (outside the home), and a letter to that child on the pain they have caused. I have a zero tolerance for this shit and I’ll make my child firmly understand this behavior is never okay. And this is just the start of me laying down consequences
Lol I see why the mum did it though
Definitely not ok, but the response would depend on the child's age. My brother at around 5 locked a teacher in the cupboard because she went in and left the keys in the door. At that age it's quite funny but very different if done for bullying reasons. The child needs to be shown kindness and understand why this is not good but that's a bigger picture rather than this one incident
Everyone is saying no it’s not okay but some kids don’t learn from a verbal warning and if your kid did do it maybe ask them why first and ask if they’d like it be done to them as well. I don’t like bullies and I’m not for bullying my kid but if my child WAS the bully I might bully them back but have hard conversations with them so they know it’s wrong. Don’t @ me about it.
Would that not just teach em that “my parents think locking people in closets is ok” ????
I think that would be quite traumatic for the child
If it helps at all these are 4th graders. So 9-10
@Frayere I think that's the point
This occurred with a teacher I know in her class. She called DHS on the parents for doing this but I don't think it's...THAT bad. Like there was the video of a little girl who cut another girl's hair at school cause she was "ugly" and she said she felt no remorse. And everyone in the comments was saying that her parents should cut off her hair or she won't ever learn.
Good for you for addressing this behaviour and keep on top of it, but find a different way to make the message clear. Perhaps Chatgpt can suggest something age appropriate
@Mas it's not me...did you use chat gpt to type this lol
What's not you? Sorry, I might have missed something as I didn't read all the responses
No. There would absolutely be harsh consequences but that’s abuse. I also feel like that’s basically saying if someone does xyz to you it’s okay to do it back. Thats definitely not the right mindset.
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Damn, definitely not.
No. IMO I would make my child apologize to the other child for the wrongful actions as well as how he/she made the other child feel. I would also make them apologize to the parents. I would then have a firm talking to my kid about why bullying in ANY way is not ok. If u bully ur kid to see how it makes them feel, it’s just traumatizing ur kid and not TEACHING them if that makes sense.
Is this DHS call-worthy
I think it is worthy of calling authorities on the parents
It’s not a solution. If a kid is bullying, and the root cause isn’t obvious, like an aggressive parent, dysfunctional home life, abuse etc…get to the root cause with a therapist and start from there. Also if they can’t be around other kids without causing harm, they don’t get to until the issue is resolved.
@Tiff I don’t know if it means the child have a dysfunctional home life. They could’ve just thought it was a funny prank.
Ah, got it...it's not your kid
@Liv Agreed. It can be, but you just don’t know sometimes, that’s why I think looking into the root cause is important. Is it a pattern? Was it a misjudgment of humor? Is the child bullied by a sibling? Family member? Friend? Are they witness to bullying or aggression? There are a ton of factors to consider, but it needs to be honed in on and stopped in it’s tracks. Bullying whether for humor or not has an effect on others, it’s so important to address and follow up on the right way.
I'm actually pretty surprised how many of you think DHS should be called. I have a family member who works pretty closely with DHS and even he said "well DHS gets a lot of nonsense calls so it wouldn't be the first" Is it the best parenting? Maybe not. Is it child abuse? I wouldn't say so.
No. There'd be consequences and they'd know they were wrong. But shutting them in a cupboard is just surely showing them that you think that sort of behaviour is ok. I personally wouldn't want that! To me it's like hitting your child because they hit another child and you're trying to show them it's wrong. Weird mixed signals and poor parenting in my opinion.