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I broke up with my babies father a week ago. We had a very tumultuous relationship and there have been ups and downs in the past but this past year has been by far the worst. He is emotionally abusive. I had enough last week, he screamed at me for turning the light on to feed my baby breakfast in the morning and made them cry, enough was enough. I’m now faced with the fact that primarily he’s making out the relationship isn’t over, no matter what I say he isn’t accepting it; it’s becoming very annoying. Secondly when I work, I only work once/twice a week at the moment, he is coming over to my house to watch our child because he lives with parents, I’m scared he will try and start something and not leave once I’m done with work. I’m running out of patience

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Maybe a restraining order, custody agreement

Im not trying to install fear, but definitely take it serious. Some men do not take breakups well, especially when they don’t want the relationship to end. Even if you think he won’t do anything (and that may very much be the case) you need to protect yourself and your babies. Is there anyway you can take the baby over to his parents? Or have someone there with you when you return home?

I had almost an identical situation. You need to establish boundaries and he can’t be coming to the house anymore . You need that space so make him look after baby at his parents or have a day out. He will be feeling a loss of control in kids life so he’s trying to influence that but not sure how. Then get ready for his five stages of grief, you will be the number one enemy. U need to make sure u have as much custody as possible. Don’t give it away will make it hard if you ever need to go to court

It will calm down but you need him to not be in the house and just be ready when he starts experiencing that loss but it will be fine we all go through this

sounds similar to my story

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