Need advice!!

i think the fact he gave it up for 2 years whilst you were pregnant and had your kid shows a lot about him, he clearly feels it’s time for him to go back to what he loved doing, i’m sure occasional Saturdays you could go and join him and make a day of it as part of your family day. Idk i just think he already gave it up for quite a significant period for you, and in return deserves to have that time back xx

None of you is selfish But he already gave up for two years So maybe he can go like two Saturday or months ? Or change the day

I think it is unfair of him to go every Saturday when it is your only day to do family things together. Maybe he could compromise & go every other Saturday or just one Saturday a month?

I agree it would be selfish to go every Saturday. When do you get to go and do something you enjoy? He sacrificed golf? You sacrificed your body, career, social life and who knows what else. Every other weekend is plenty...

I would meet him in the middle and suggests he does every other satirday for example? But for him to spend every single Saturday which is his only day to spend with his family feels a bit like he’s running away x

I am a ‘cricket widow’ as we are called and it is hell on earth! I think it’s amazing he took two years off I really do my partner would never, but do you guys not get a Sunday together? If we didn’t get a Sunday I would be devastated. The problem with only playing every now and then as some people have suggested is most clubs don’t allow it. My partner plays week games Saturday games training and goes to meetings, I have told him if he doesn’t quit for a year we can’t have a second baby as I think I will really struggle with evenings on my own

I totally understand. My husband used to play every Saturday cricket season (same months as yours). It takes up the entire day from morning to late evening and then on Sundays he was always too tired to do anything. So I don’t think you’re selfish because it does really affect how much time you guys get with each other. If his club allows more flexibility with how often he plays, which I’m pretty sure most if not all do, I reckon going every other weekend would be a compromise. My husband isn’t really able to play this year due to ankle injury from last season and I think he’s losing interest in it too as it’s such a long day. He’s been playing since a very young age too.

So my husband is the same. I knew what I was getting myself in for and he didn't even take any time off when I had our babies! Our second baby was born on a Tuesday in April and he was at cricket on the Saturday HOWEVER I was the one who said it was fine for him to go. Now the kids are getting a bit older (3&1) we can go and join him for the day as normally they're somewhere that has a play park close by etc and we can take a picnic. Make a day of it! But I do totally understand where you're coming from x

@Sinead it’s not really a family day out when they play cricket. I’ve sat there with my husbands family all day watching the cricket and you honestly get minutes to speak to them sometimes and that’s all as they’re out in the field for hours. It’s a very long and exhausting day. Giving it up for 2 years to build a family and then wanting to go back to it leaving that family you’ve just started doesn’t sit well with me. He should compromise and not be playing every weekend. Family is always priority.