My husband said he’s going to make his own meals now 🙄🙄🙄
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He’s gaslighting you because you did ask if he wanted something and he said no. He was expecting you to buy him something anyway. You are not a mind reader nor his mother and he is acting like an entitled child in my opinion.
If my man said he’s cooking and getting his own meals from now own I would be like sounds good fuck off
You did ask. He said no, twice. If his solution is to c9ok for himself, k then sir. We can talk when he's ready to sit down and have an adult conversation.
@Elizabeth ikr lol but I would be the petty one if I told him he can also do his own laundry, wash his own dishes, drive his own car (he drives my car btw), and run his own errands while he’s at it. I could use the break.
he’s totally being a baby! he’s a grown man he doesn’t need to rely on you to eat 🙄 i would reply with “great, one less thing for me to worry about”
@Lyss and I pointed out that I did ask him & he declined twice. And he said yeah bc I asked him hours after the fact and he says I only asked him then because it was time for our child to eat 😐 Wtf have I gotten myself into 😕 and the crazy part is, he’s been like this for years. Especially since having our first kid. And I’ve ignored all the red flags all these years 😔
Y’all need to have a date night with calm, real conversation. Be intentional about it. Remind each other that it’s both of you vs the conflict, not you vs him. See if you can understand what the other is feeling. Maybe once the baby’s down? Or bring the baby with and get a babysitter? Just make sure you’re not clashing in front of the littles ❤️ Something that really helps us navigate conflict is to hold hands while we talk. Sometimes we don’t want to, but we do anyway. It helps This particular situation makes him sound absolutely awful. However you mentioned him being like this since you had your first. It could be a gradual build up of neither of you prioritizing your relationship over the kids for years? *I’m not a marriage expert. Idk your whole story. These are just my first thoughts after reading your story and comments 🤷🏻♀️ Take them or leave them!
Hahahaha let him. See how long that lasts. He’s wanting you to grovel or insist that you make him food. Don’t. This is attention seeking behavior.
Happy days, I'd let him 😅
One less thing to worry about, that’s a win imo. Let him.
Maybe he should learn to feed himself, tell him that's a great idea!
U took the kids to the pool, aquarium and he was asleep. U took ur daughter to the doctor and he was asleep. He Was asleep wen yall returned. Basically he was asleep while u wer running errands and obviously tired. Did u tell him u wer tired running behind all these tasks and that he is a big boy and needs to understand this? Me and my husband also went thru a similar situation, I tried to communicate and when still he wouldn’t understand, I sulked for a whole week before returning to normal. He them proactively helped me with the dishes and laundry to earn my love. Men r just babies in disguise, so immature at times
@Nandini he did come to the aquarium as well but that night i told him i haven’t really been getting any sleep at night bc of frequently getting up with the baby. And he says “oh ok” 🫠
Update Post: He’s still giving me the cold shoulder & hasn’t eaten any meal I’ve prepared. Oh & my uncle (who was also a favorite of his) passed away yesterday & he’s still treating me like 💩 I think I’m married to a complete a-hole 😐
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I'm sorry for your your loss. ❤️ Has he always been a little like this, or does it feel out of character and something is up he hasn't told you about?
@Bonny thanks. he’s done this silent treatment thing a couple times in the past but this time hurts 1000000 times more bc I have to deal with his antics on top of grieving & basically taking care of the kids by myself.
He is so wrong. The right solution is to support you (the current system for the family eating food) when you are overtaxed. The wrong solution is to create a competing system (him) that only solves part of the problem (his own food, nothing for you or your kids). If he needs additional consideration, he can ask for it like a grown-up rather than pout and sulk without saying anything directly. 🙄