Daddy Connection

I would have him keep doing what he’s doing, but with confidence. Babies smell fear 😅 My husband went through the same with our son bc it was all new to him, but he’s more confident as a second time with our daughter. Honestly a little too confident and she’ll prefer him over me 😅

@Lauren thank you

I had this problem also. My LO is almost 2.5 months and been with me majority of the time because he worked. She did not want him when he got home she only wsnted me. It is definitely very frustrating because

he tried everything to get that connection. I am now just starting work so the past two days i was at work for 6-8 hours each day. In just those two days I have noticed a HUGE change with her interaction with him. She isn't crying when i leave her alone with him and he can get her to fall asleep withour my help. She is now letting us both care for and play with her equally. So I personally recommend maybe try maybe going out for an hour or two at a time and letting her get the one on one time more so she realizes he can do everything you're doing for her. Also try have him do special little thing with her when she wakes up and when she goes to bed. For example my fiance will go upstairs to bed before me and read to her for a few minutes and in the morning he changes her first diaper and talks to her for few minutes so they get that alone time. I hope this helped at all good luck mamas hang in there

@Jacetina Bradley thank u

My son honestly didn't want anything to do with my husband until he was about a year old 🤣 but he also worked midnights and was asleep during the day so they didn't have the time. My daughter is a complete daddies girl unless she's tired or hungry, then he can go away and give her back to the cow lmao It really varies from baby to baby, but it does come eventually 💗

@🪷Faith🪷 Okay thank you so much

My oldest is 2 while my youngest is 3 months. They both want me all the time bc I'm with them 24/7. I would just keep encouraging him to do what he's doing now. Kids really do pick up on your body language and can tell if you're stressed or not.

@Sam okay thank you so much

Ooooh girl. Tonight I was like ok is it just me or does she get hysterical everytime he picks her up? I’ve noticed 3 times this past 2 weeks I’m pretty certain this is happening to me too and it’s SOOOO hard to be around and hearing her wailing 😭 But definitely let him keep doing his thing . It’s tough and hard to hear because I kept hovering like a damn helicopter wanting to say “ give her back “ but he’s her daddy and she needs to know it’s okay . So i’m with you here . It’s tough but they will have a great bond it sounds like he’s a good daddy to yalls baby 🩷

So my baby is actually just as attached to dad as she is to me and I think it might have something to do with the fact that I had him do skin to skin with her in the first hour she was born. Like while I did the placenta and everything he held her and they got to bond as well. It’s mostly a smell thing for very young babies… so try keeping his T shirt next to her face as she nurses or eats so that she can start to associate him with feeling happy and safe. You could also try holding baby “together”… like maybe you hold baby and dad sits next to you and plays with her. That way all you’re doing is acting as an anchor and she can safely explore a relationship with dad without feeling like she is too far from mom. When you do this try to let dad do all of the interacting and keep it a positive experience. Don’t push it. Just slowly expose baby to more of dad in a positive way so she can start to see him as a good thing. Like desensitizing a scared dog or exposure therapy for anxious ppl

Also I think everyone else is right about being confident and fearless when handling baby. Like I said, make it a positive experience for her. Oh, and do it often! The more times she is exposed to him positively, the more she will associate him with good things. You don’t have to do it for very long, but you should try to do it many different times a day. Even a couple minutes is fine bc babies have short attention spans