Feeling unappreciated

My kids' birthday party is this weekend. I made almost everything myself to save money because we genuinely could not afford to get catered or all pre made food. I busted my butt, had to cook and bake while holding my kid on my hip bc they didn't want anyone else near them, and still have more to do and have handled everything. We went to dinner with my fiancé's family, and I was looking forward to my leftovers bc I've been up all day, and he stayed home while I went to do everything (it was his bday so we gave him a quiet day). But when we got home, he ate like half my food while I was in the shower. And I know it stupid, but he does this to me all the time or just eats all of it and drinks all my water. I was irritated, and he was confused why so I told him bc I've been working my butt off all day and his response??? "It's not like anybody forced you to make everything." Idek I don't even want to host the party anymore now. I'm exhausted and I've been planning for weeks. I feel like nothing I do is actually appreciated by him, and he's always one bad minute away from a pissy mood. I'm so tired

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Some men are just that way. Zero emotions or feelings. You are very much appreciated mama and that’s a ton of work you got done!! The reason you did it all in the first place…is for the kids. So please, just ignore him and have the party cause it would put a smile on the kids face and it’s a memory to cherish. Keep being a great mum 🩵

You poured so much effort into your kids' birthday party to save money, which is huge, especially while also caring for your baby. Be kind to yourself. You're carrying everything all at once. it's normal to feel overwhelmed. You're doing a great job

Looking at the bigger picture here, why are you with someone who treats you like this? You call him your fiancé which means you’re planning to marry him, but I feel you need to open your eyes and really ask yourself why. Why was your fiancé not helping you in any way, shape or form for his own kid’s party? He couldn’t help with the cooking? Look after his own damn child for 5 mins to enable you to bake/cook safely? Sorry but stop making excuses, just because your baby may only want you, doesn’t mean they couldn’t be distracted for long enough so you could get things done in probably half the time it took you. So what if it was his birthday? Who cares if he has a ‘quiet day’?! He’s a god damn father! Kids and noise are part and parcel! And then after all that, he eats all your leftovers? And you’ve said he does it all the time so not even a one-off?! Wow. So not only does he not care about you, he’s disrespectful af too.

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