Am I in the wrong to be mad?

So my bf went to see a movie with a friend today. He asked if I wanted to go but I said no bc I don't want to see the movie, I worked 2pm-9pm, and I'll fall asleep in the theater so I told him be can go. That was before finding out it was on a Friday (today) when we had plans so I got really upset bc this isn't he first time he planned over our plans and was very late like passed midnight late. So I told him I was upset he was going and told him why and he promised me he wouldn't be out so late and by the time I got out of work he'd be home and we could continue with our plans. I also told him that if it's passed 12 to just stay home bc I have to sleep for work the next day. Throughout the whole day I'm upset bc he's leaving me on seen and on delivered before even watching the movie and not just for minutes, for hours. So I stop responding and it turns into a issue and we argue so I tell him I'll text him when I'm home. Fast forward to 9pm I'm clocking out and he's still out so I start getting upset AGAIN and tell him that he just then broke his promise and became very upset about it then around 10pm he tells me hes on his way home. He asked if I still wanted to hangout and I don't him it's up to him and he says he'll be over once his stomach stops hurting so I sit and wait. I noticed the time is around 11:40pm he left me on delivered for over 30mins, isn't with me, no update at all. My anger just kept growing and growing and I start an argument bc he knows I've been looking forward to our plans and completely let me down and the hormones made me feel so extra sensitive about it I start to cry a lot. It's now 2am, I can't sleep, he's not answering so he's probably asleep now, and I'm still so upset and sad and feel like crying so much more...

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You're not in the wrong at all. You guys had made plans and he decided to override that with his own fun time that he didn't clearly the date of to you. He knew you guys had plans so him having his own plan is bogus He told you he'd be there by a certain time to which he was not and he left you on delivered. The least he could've done was be there when you guys agreed or after his stomach issues.

It doesn't show that he valued what you had planned previously especially since he still decided to go on with his own plan

Definitely not in the wrong. I’d be absolutely livid if my partner made plans with someone else after we’d already made plans. He should have prioritised that especially because you weren’t able to go to the movies because you said you’d fall asleep. I’d also be livid if he’s not answering his phone because what happens if you have an emergency or if you have a child and they have an emergency? I’ve always said that when I go out, I will never drink past my limit, I also said to my partner and my daughters grandparents that if they text I may not see it but if they call for an emergency then I’ll know it’s super important or they need something. But him leaving you on read is rude af because clearly he was on his phone and could access it. Sorry that he’s doing this to you, he should be respectful to you

I'm a bit confused about timing and can't really follow because of that. What were your plans? What time was the movie? If you were working at the time of the movie, why were you invited? I'd be annoyed if him backing out on plans you've made is a common habit.

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