Days out

I don't know if I'm just being ridiculous 😂 ... it is a possibility, but we have SD every weekend, and every saturday morning, my partners sister will message 'we are going to XYZ do you want to come?' And every weekend my partner says yes. My issue is, it's never the park, or beach or something cheap, it's we're going to the play centre, the zoo, gulivers world, sea life, lego land, zip world, treetops etc. Like every saturday is £100+ and then there's always something on a sunday too. We went to lapland uk last year and said to SD we won't be able to go back now until baby gets invited and you can go with her. His sisters booked this year, and guilt tripped us into going, so there's £1000 on a day activity. My partner doesn't see anything wrong with it but I just feel like they are being spoilt, SD is so ungrateful because shes so used to just getting everything and going everywhere whenever she wants. We never just go to the park or anything normal it's always ridiculous activities. We booked a holiday and told her and she said 'why? I've already been there' there's no excitement or gratitude and it's starting to grate on me because I don't want my baby growing up like that. It's just getting harder and harder to keep her entertained, she's always bored and wants something new. And it's gotten to a point where £100 + days out are the norm and not special days out anymore. Am I being ridiculous being annoyed?

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I don’t think you’re being ridiculous. We’ve stopped doing things with my step daughter at the minute until we get a little more gratefulness, as things are not free. Because we never get a please or thank you. We have discussed this with her, and she’s 11 so she absolutely should be using her manners now. So no I don’t think you’re being out of order etc. not everyone can afford to do big activities every weekend, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with a simple park trip etc maybe you need to sit down with your partner and really show him how serious you are about this! X

I think social media literally made the keeping up with the joneses mentality go from 0-1000000 if I'm honest🤣 Then there is the other part where I think some parents genuinely struggle to entertain their children themselves so chuck money at activities/big days out Plus it's 100+ now because you've got a baby and 9/10 they get in everywhere for free. It's going to be a shock when that doubles surely? Say you did it every weekend you could easily spend close to a 1000 a month! Do you literally sit with baby while dad does the fun stuff too? Aside from gratitude, disappointment is another emotion that children need to learn to manage. If you go through your whole childhood getting everything that you want you're going to have a real shock when you get older and realise not everything goes your way in life🙈🤣 I feel like you need to talk to dad about this and how it's not how you want to bring your child up together. X

Yeah, I end up sitting with baby whilst he does the fun stuff, which is also frustrating 😂 I've had this chat with him, and SD as she's constantly telling us how bored she is, so I've explained to her it's okay to be bored, etc. And she has a strop about it and tells us it's been the worst day of her life and she hopes she never has another day like this ever 😂 after getting back from the zoo and getting treats all day 🥴 I've told him there's no way our baby is being brought up like that, and he says yeah we will knock it on the head and then the following weekend comes and it starts all over again. Exactly that ,It's like lapland, last year baby was free.. this year, her ticket was £155 🫠 for something we've already done, baby won't remember, and SD won't be grateful for. I just feel like I'm fighting a losing battle with it all

You honestly could try a different approach! Like make plans just for you and if he wants to go on these big days out say that's fine you take the kids I'm doing x,y,z. He might not enjoy them so much when he hasn't got you there to look after the baby or watch the bags! Essentially you're just spending on a ticket to 'go along' and unless it's a zoo or an aquarium it's quite pointless🙈 Or as baby gets older, say well I don't want to go out this weekend if you want to take SD that's fine we'll just put the price of what would be baby's admission into a savings account to keep it fair Actions speak louder than words sometimes 🤣 It is an attitude you need to knock on the head though! What happens if you hit hard times financially and SD can vote with her feet. Is she going to even want to see dad on the weekends? X

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