Feel like I never get a break from my little one

I barely get any help from anyone else so while I need to do everything, I also have to manage it all around my clingy baby and even when I can sit down she's on me fidgetting and climbing all over me which overwhelms me so much. When my partner tries to take her she just screams and he doesn't take it well so I just end up taking her back although I'm trying to leave them to it more and when I'm over the edge it makes it a lot easier, but I don't want to keep having to have a mental breakdown to get a break. Nap times aren't a break because if I try to leave she wakes up so I just stay, bedtime can be a break for a little while because she sleeps better at night but it's still not enough because I also spend that time doing what I didn't have time to do in the day. I'm so overwhelmed and I don't know what to do, and I don't just want a day of freedom to then go back to it all, I want constant time each day or week when it's just me doing whatever I want which is just impossible it seems... but so glad everyone else can have and do what they want in my house!

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💯 completely relatable, unfortunately I think once we become mothers alone time becomes a luxury because we don’t have that “village” to help us with child rearing like in the past perhaps.

you need to affirm your boundaries. your partner is available, and the fact that your baby doesn’t warm to him as well as you isn’t a valid excuse for him to not play his in parenting. it’s hard, but you’ve got to let them get used to each other. im not sure how old your little one is, but if contact naps aren’t working for you then you can do your best to work towards other ways of getting them to nap. i have to settle my 6 month old multiple times throughout his naps / night time sleep but best believe I AM getting up and doing something else even if its just for 3 minutes, and then hopefully another 10. i know he naps better in my arms but i stick to putting him down because ill take a cat nap over feeling overwhelmed by constantly being in need, as you want specific time to yourself, this is something you should relay to your partner and figure out the best times possible for you both, it’s something he should be encouraging, not dettering you from

I know exactly how you feel. It’s like we’re the default parent and all baby care falls to us. I’m planning on having this exact conversation tonight, he needs to learn to settle the baby by himself and put him to bed. I need an hour a week for myself.

Sometimes I just have to leave the house. Nipping to the shop on my own, leaving my LO with my partner feels like such a treat!

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