Anyone else struggle with this??

Does anyone else’s baby daddy just take all the time??? Like he just doesn’t seem to wanna do anything else. I’ve got 3 step kids, my son who is 1 and a baby on the way. All he does is sit down and play video games.. it’s really starting to get to me now as he just doesn’t do anything else with his day. He believes letting the kids sit on the iPad all day is okay. Yeah great if you wanna do that then fine… but he doesn’t do the house work.. doesn’t really stop to do anything unless it involves food. It’s getting very late in my pregnancy so I’m very uncomfortable and sore and tired. I’m now 35 +4 weeks So it’s becoming a struggle to do anything.. I literally feel like breakdown as everytime I talk to him about it all he said he needs to game first before he can do anything or that if I want something done to just ask him.. I ask him to do anything yet apparently I’m being bossy or nagging.. I feel like I’m losing a losing battle all the time. From the second he’s up till he goes to bed he games. I honestly don’t understand how this is healthy.. I feel so alone as I’m doing all the house work. Running around after 4 kids while being heavily pregnant and I just had enough now. He says I put too much pressure on him which okay I’ve had to ask many times before he actually does anything and that’s even if he does… he gets annoyed at the kids for getting in the way of his “gaming time” I really don’t know what to do. We’ve spoken about this time and time and nothing changes at all. I keep getting told that I need to settle down and calm down and that I’m over reacting and it’s driving me crazy.. how is wanting to have a clean home when we could have a baby here any day so wrong?? How is wanting to give the kids the best life instead of being stuck in doors all day when it’s nice wrong?? I feel like I’m losing my mind and I can’t cope right now. Anyone got any tips because I honestly feel like throwing that video games away.. I’m at a lose

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I’d say give him an ultimatum. If he doesn’t stop gaming all day and only go on like an hour then you’ll leave. You’re a single mother already, the difference is you clean up after him and cook for him. Life sounds like it would be easier without him

i’ll put this bluntly - sounds like you’re babysitting a man child. was his behavior always like this? if so, why would you think he’d change just because a baby is on the way? his mom and dad failed to raise him with respect, discipline, and morals. there’s no changing that. if you’re in a position where you can separate and be on your own, you might as well. there’s no point in being in a relationship or having him around if you’re doing all the work anyway. the longer you enable this behavior, you’re burying yourself deeper in a hole. clearly, he doesn’t have the mental capacity to take on children. i’m sorry you’re going through this. you deserve a loving partner who is willing to help you wherever and whenever you need it - especially now.

My ex was the exact same way... I had to sit directly next to him for him to do anything because that's all he wanted to do was game from when he opened his eyes in the morning to when he eventually passed out at night... I have him a week to changed things and he still did it so I kicked him out... We share only 1 kids so I can't even imagine how you're feeling

This is far too common. Seems the dynamic of a lot of household. Smfh

You shouldn’t have to ask him. You’re a team not his manager. And he can’t tell you to ask him and then call you bossy or a nag. Honestly this would make me all kinds of nuts. People suggesting an ultimatum are right!

He can’t cope with the responsibility of being a man husband and father. He needs therapy.

Honestly this is why I’m a single mum of 4 x

My baby daddy is like this too, says he gets depressed from the cycle of work and home but gaming takes up most of his time, we have one dinner night every weekend or we go to the mall to hang out as a family but that took a lot of nagging, I felt really alone especially it being my first ever pregnancy and decided my last, I was a wreck. You need to leave, if he sees video games as more important than you and your babies he's not in love he is mooching off of your hard work and all the sacrifices you have to make. You're having to handle another child that is supposed to be a man and your biggest supporter. Don't let him talk you out of it either I cannot tell you how many times I changed my mind because the second he put on that innocent high pitched sweet voice all the confidence I had minutes before vanished. Love is hell when it's the wrong person.

He’s a child. You should’ve seen his dynamic with his previous children’s mother(s) and his parenting. Playing house is all fun and games until shit gets real. You can’t change a person that’s not willing to change themselves. So you’d have to figure out what you’re willing to sacrifice or Willing to accept.

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