in October 2023 Babies 🇬🇧

Losing myself

Since becoming a mum, nearly a year and a half on now, I feel like I've just completely lost myself. Is anyone else feeling like this? I literally haven't done anything for myself that I used to enjoy since before LO was born, not even once. For instance, going to the gym, going shopping for a couple of hours, having some free time to read/study something I'm interested in. I think it's beginning to make me slightly depressed, not to mention unfit as well. My husband and I do not have any help from friends or family, so it works out that neither of us have any free time. The only 'free' time we have is after 8ish when LO is in bed for the night. But by the time this rolls around I'm utterly exhausted and still usually have a couple of chores to be etc before I go to bed. We've discussed before not spending time together on weekends and each taking turns with LO on our own so the other can do something else, but I'm not keen on this because I'm currently at home with my LO all week and don't have any adult company, so I wouldn't want to extend this to weekends too.

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It is difficult, I felt the same however now the weather is getting better have found myself taking my daughter out with other mum friends who have kids a similar age. Then she can play and I get too see other people as well as enjoying watching her❤️ I’m sorry this isn’t the best advice however if you need someone to talk too my inbox is always open ❤️or happy to arrange to meet ❤️

Yes I feel exactly the same before I had my baby boy I used to do paint by numbers, courses on things I was interested in as these both helped my anxiety. Even getting nails done or hard done i just done get time for it. Neither me or my partner are able to do anything for ourselves. He runs his own business so is always busy. My mum looks after my son when I work 3 afternoons a week but that is all the help we get. We can't ask my partners mother to help she is so unwell anything could happen while she looks after him and we can't risk that. I've got to the point I don't really know what to do anymore to help either of us x

At weekends can baby's dad have 1:1 fine with little one so you can go do your hobbies or rest or meet friends etc?

Kind of? I still do most hobbies but they are extremely adapted for LO in tow. Art is now just crayons Yoga is with him climbing on me. But I manage it nearly every day. Walks outside is with the pram or with him. Reading is on the way to work and mainly topics are parenting 😅😅😅 I used to love cooking and now my partner has totally taken over so I can still cluster feed 🙈🙈🙈 as its what LO wants. But I think he likes cooking what he wants to eat so its a win for him Travelling... yeah that's history now 🫣

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