in February 2024 Babies 🇬🇧

Is this fair?

Is this fair or am I being selfish. So I never get a break I don't have family so aside from my partner doing little bits I do everything for my little one. My partner has been on holiday and still goes to games and sees his friends. We always have to see his family (even though it's awful for me as I have seen messages of him and his sister being really cruel about me because I've struggled with my mental health) I haven't had any time to myself in months even then it's like an hour or two. My little one wakes a lot in the evening so I don't even have that time to relax. Today I asked for a break because I feel burnt out. I've had an hour and he's like he needs a sleep. Surely I should be entitled to more than an hour and as his dad he should be able to get him to sleep. Now I'm sat having only had an hour to myself and he's setting up to watch the football. Am I being selfish thinking like this?

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Your absolutely not selfish at all, single mam here and it's hard let alone having a partner who's the selfish one this post has made me really angry tbh at your boyfriend he sounds like a tosser and you deserve so much better, I also have mental health they should never have made fun of you while struggle they should have offered more support🫠😔 if you need a chat I'm only a message away. You've got this and your an incredible mother 🩷

You are certainly not being selfish you have to take time out for yourself because being a mum is exhausting if you don’t take care of yourself now it will affect your mental health talk to your partner tell him how you feel hopefully he will understand

You're not being selfish, sometimes men just don't get it. Try talking to your partner, mental health gets so much worse with lack of sleep, you need him to help out more for your own health. Sending love, you're doing a great job, motherhood is hard! X

my advice would be ask for time off and actually leave the house ...

He’s being selfish not you. My husband takes my daughter out most Saturdays for 5-6 hours so I can nap and do my own thing. He also does bedtime so I have some evening time and if I’m stressed or tired he will take her out for an hour or two after work so I get a break.

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