Family parenting advice (rant)

Sounds like these women think they have the right or knowledge to teach you how to parent, which is so inappropriate. You are the parent, not them. I don’t know what experience they seem to think they have over you, but every child is different and no one knows their child better than the mother. Older people are often trying to teach or one-up younger people, and that speaks more to their egos and insecurities than anything about you. A secure person would respect your position as a mother. You are the expert on your own child, you know their routine at home. If that happens again, I would laugh at the situation and try and be like “you want to pretend/play parent for the night, haha go ahead aunty, I need a break.” Really sorry you went through that though.

If it makes you feel any better when my daughter has a tantrum in public I have no clue how to react either. She’s only 21 months old and doesn’t really have a way to give direct consequences because she’s too young to really understand them. So there’s not much I can do other than ask her to calm down use her words and remedy whatever is bothering her

Tantrums can't be rewarded? Yes, if it's an 8 year old who is rolling around the floor because they can't have some chocolate. BABIES ARE BABIES, their tantrums are how they communicate unhappiness with us. Tending to your baby wouldn't be rewarding him or being a pushover. Sorry you felt undermined ❤️

@Kato thank you! I’ll definitely just tell them to play mommy next time if they think they can do it better cus I deserve a break 😭

@Melanie I’ll keep that in mind as he gets older, like you said they’re just babies so they don’t understand. You’re doing great mama!!

@Rebecca thank you! I wish they understood that, he’s just a baby and we’re learning together and letting him just cry at this age won’t teach him anything.

I absolutely would have picked baby up and told everyone I was going to step outside or to the bathroom to calm them down. I absolutely won't be allowing anyone to overstep my parenting and I'm sorry that they instilled that embarrassment in you as I really think you will have done just fine handling it. These older ladies really do have a parenting complex and it's such an ugly display of "experience".

honestly i don’t mind when my family does this like when they do then i just tell them it’s their turn to parent then and i sit down and go about my business as if they weren’t my kids 😂😂

Babies at this age don't have "tantrums" like toddlers and therfore they can't be "rewarded" like some people think. At this age, there is generally something they need and not paying attention to them is never gonna stop them being upset. When they are toddlers, it's a bit different and ignoring the behaviour is one tactic but it's still never the right one in a restraunt. I think mums know best 👌 other people most likely have good intentions but you're the one that has to deal with them 24/7 so it's your choice how to handle this