Is surprising family with a pregnancy a shitty way to announce?

If it could ruin the trip for you then I wouldn’t do a surprise. If you can handle a possible bad reaction then do a surprise.

Does it really matter? You're keeping the baby, so, why does it matter what their reaction is?

We told the family in law when we had our third. Our planned baby! My baby girl I always wanted. They asked if I don't know about contraception. Guess what I had 2 more after her. It really doesn't matter what others think 🤷‍♀️

@Patricia how do you get over not caring what they think? I think I’m probably just sensitive because of the pregnancy but I have to admit since having children I do feel others judgments more than I used to. Congratulations on your big family it’s wonderful and has always been my dream this is my 4th 😊

I tried to please them at the start but nothing was ever good enough so I stopped. Sometimes we have to accept when someone doesn't like us and move on to the people that do x

I got a lot of judgement and comments (still do as a single mum with 3 kids aged 2 and under with 3 different surnames) I used to care but then I’d ask myself the following: Are they paying for your bills? Housing you? Looking after your children full time/constantly? Involved in the process of making a baby? Is it going to change the outcome of having a baby? If the answer is no to these then honestly it’s none of their business and their opinion doesn’t matter or hold any weight. And why should it? It’s your body and your choice. The other thing I started doing was making it awkward for them or saying something back (gave me a laugh).