Having a moment….

I felt the same way when my dad's birthday came in March.

@Brianna how did you get through it? We were pretty close before I really understood who he is and how some personality traits can’t be changed.

I feel you love Im pretty much no contact woth my entire family (all sides) because tehy are abusive/ dysfunctional, narcs/ alcoholics etc. It does get a little easier. The way i think about it is the energy i was putting into trying to people please and maintain those relationships was ruining my mental health and taking away from what i could give my child and partner etc and costing me tooooo much in therapy. That thought alone usually helps a bit. Then i just feel the residual grief and cry then let it go and move on with my day etc. You cant save anyone. People need to want to live and change and its not your job to change/ rescue or change anyone. If he gets his life together and wants to be a part of your life well then different story but sadly may never happen. Al anon really helped me with processing and support when i was struggling with the no contact etc. The people in those spaces understand and share some of your pain etc unlike the majority of the world (and social media does not help..

Seeing people perfect fanilies etc on socials makes me feel worse so i unfollow anyone that posts that crap because its not helpful for me and i follow only pages that help to lift me up and get through the tough days. You are not alone. Xxx

The way I see it is, you can be blood related to someone. But; family is more than that. You shouldn't have someone in your life, just because you think you should, because of blood. Sometimes you should cut people out your life for good, for you.