Am I being unreasonable?
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I think if you're getting up in the night for feeds it's perfectly reasonable to ask him to wake up earlier to help you out. With my first I formula fed so my husband would get up and do the first morning feed and would help with night feeds during the weekends. With my second I'm breastfeeding so he will get up with my eldest and take baby downstairs once fed to give me some extra sleep until he goes to work and longer at the weekend.
Yessss I agree, meant to mention that about during the night! ^
So he’s getting a full nights rest to get ready for work but you have to operate on basically no sleep for your day of work aka taking care of yall child…. So he needs sleep but you don’t?? This makes me mad 😑 He can wake up and help.
I breastfeed so it's not like he can help in the night really. So I'd prefer him to get up!
My last 2/5 babies he done all the night feedings while going to his 8-5. (His choice for bonding most times I’d still wake for company) Unless he wants to be majorly resented he should help and you absolutely aren’t asking for too much. 8-5 is cake walk compared to eyes open to eyes closed shift that you have going on. He should trade for a week or stfu.
I think he's being selfish. I'm sure he is tired from his work, but caring for a baby is also work and is tiring and he's expecting you to do it 24/7 whereas he's only working 40 hrs/weeks
My partner gets up early for work but since having the baby he’s been getting up that little bit earlier to give her a feed before he goes we both accept we are going to be tired at the moment but he gets a decent block of sleep and I need a little bit of that to ! Your looking after a baby you need to be a bit rested.
No he should be helping! The excuse of work doesn’t cut it. If you don’t get a break then neither does he you didn’t make your baby by yourself. My ex has 3 kids under 4 works full time and still does cleaning, looks after all his kids. He’s exhausted but he knows it’s his job aswel as me and his gf
The odd time he should take the baby he made little one as well, it shouldn’t always be down to you. I understand working can be tiring but it does not excuse you from being a parent. He should be helping out more, it’s only fair. It’s supposed to be a team effort, not just left to one person. He definitely needs to be pulling his weight & by the sounds of this post he isn’t x
I think he's being inconsiderate. My husband gets up at 330am for work (gets home by 6pm) and if I asked, he'd help with a newborn and has before. You need to give your man a serious talking to.
It’s recommended that most healthy adults need 7-9 hours of sleep a night. If he’s going to bed at a good time and getting at least 7 hours, there definitely isn’t an excuse. My partner worked long hours as he was a manager when we had our little one, he still got up in the night and helped. I still got less sleep than him but it’s important to have both parents rested even if it’s a little bit. If he refuses to get up in the morning to help, what does he do when he is home from work? Does he refuse to help then as well?
Who wanted the baby? I would remind ask him that. Do you have shared responsibilities? Does he have his time with the baby when he gets back from work? Perhaps using the evening time to prepare-clothes for the day, pans and pots to cook breakfast, or lunch, set everything up so you have a smooth run. What can both of you do to make things easier?
I think from time to time he should be able to take some earlier mornings just to relieve you a little bit. It wouldn’t kill him. I don’t think a lot of people, (dads especially) realize how hard it is for us SAHM… it takes a toll on one.