Is it my fault

Me and my partner have been drifting apart. We rarley have sex and he's been sleeping on the sofa. We never have time together as he's always working. We haven't had a date in about 4 years. He started texting/flirting with a girl at his work. I think she's shown him interest and he's jumped at it. He's promised it was just texts and nothing more happend. I just don't think I can ever trust him again. I want to make it work because I love him and want us to try but I'm unsure. I feel I'm partly to blame but there's no excuse for him cheating I know that!

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Not your fault. There's 2 people in a relationship. In regards to the messages ... Did it just stop at those because he got caught? If he can text her like that he can do more and doesn't mean he's telling the truth when he says that's all that happened

If he can do it once he will do it again he’ll just find a way to make sure he’s more secretive next time. I know you may love him but it’s just not worth it at all chick. You’d be better off on your own. He could use the energy he’s got texting other girls to fix your relationship but he chose not to.. that says it all. And speaking from experience once they’ve done it once it will happen again xxx

Imo, if you want to try and make it work, you need to prioritize spending time together and dating each other again. Even though it's been 4 years and you rarely have sex, it could be a contributing factor to why you've both drifted apart. Him sleeping on the sofa is also not good for time together, especially after having kids. Life gets busy and crazy, especially after having kids. It's unpredictable, but setting that time aside where you are both one on one with each other and getting to know each other again can help your relationship tremendously. It may also benefit you guys to start seeing a counselor/therapist to help you navigate getting close again and rebuilding trust(if that is something you aim for). Wish you the best in whatever you decide.

It's probably not your fault I say probably because I don't know you but even if you are evil a good man would stand by his word if you want to fix this though you have to forgive and immediately work on it say look we're drifting apart I wanna work on us I want us to be happy lovers like we were and I know we're different now so I want to work on moving into a new happy us it's 99% of the time not the person who is asking for advices fault but waiting on the other one to start to be proactive about saving it isn't worth it it's not going to happen so ask yourself if you Want to start suffering working hard to fix it is he worth it maybe maybe not but it's up to you cuz we've seen what he's going to do when it gets tough and that hadn't been helpful so far FYI though he's not being honest...

This the start of cheating

To be honest, I’d see if this situation could be the ‘wake up call’ you both need to shake it up. If he feels he may actually lose you, his reaction should tell you everything.

Also don’t think it’s ur fault either

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