I want my husband to quit his job

He works 10-14 hour days over half the week and I feel like I’m only married on the weekend, on top of this I’m practically a single parent at this point. This was supposed to be the end of a year of tenuous employment and near homelessness since we both got laid off when I was four months pregnant. That was a whole year of praying we would somehow find rent. But now, he has a job and I never ever see him. This shouldn’t be how much you have to work to live, how much you have to sacrifice to pay rent. I’m so tired. I just want to tell him to quit. What would you do?

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First off it sucks that your man has to work like that mine does to! But with kids you have to put in long hours tbh would it be a good idea for him to quit?! Probably not how you gonna pay the bills or get your kids stuff! Tbh I would just learn to live because no matter what he gonna have to work to provide trust me you would rather have a man then a broke man!

You have to work to live.. unless you can afford to not work then it is what it is.. my partner works 9 hours a day, 6/7 days a week..

My husband works 140 hours a week and is gone almost twice that a month. Things just have to go the way they are going? Would it be the best option for him to quit and put you guys in the hole again?? I understand babies are alot of work but imagine the stress your husband is under being the one to keep yall afloat.

@Emily sadly I happen to like my husband if he has a high paying job or not and would rather see him than have nice overtime pay. Probably should have mentioned in my post but I thought it was obvious he’d get a different job. The world doesn’t really work like that haha

@Shona ah I thought it would be obvious he would have to get a different job, not just stop working.

@Melanie I can kind of imagine the stress my husband is under… part of why I’m considering asking him to quit…

I understand that. But quitting and trying to find a job that pays just as much or more is even more stressful than quitting. My husband is gone 24/7 so i GET IT and i only see mine on weekends unless hes close by for me to go with him. I miss him constantly but thats the role and life i choose to have its not for everyone. My best advice is to talk to your husband and find out an option that fits your needs.

@Melanie that’s valid, and also good advice. Thank you

How old are the kids and how many? I’ve kinda been in that boat but I don’t think I’d ask him to quit unless he hated his job. I use to just go once they start school I can go to work and then maybe he could start working less and then have date nights. Hire a babysitter for a couple hours or once the kids are asleep build a lego and watch a movie (we build legos and watch lego masters once the kids are in bed)🤣😅 then it doesn’t feel as bad not seeing him what feels like all the time.

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