TW- abortion

Hi mamas . Firstly please reply gently to this I’m really torn. The past few weeks have been intense and I kept crying to God about my worries of if I die there is nobody else to look after my child . I don’t want him to suffer at the hands of my husband’s family as they’re so horrible and mean. God miraculously I think has blessed me with another baby but it’s got me so confused because I want to break up with his baby father and I want to be on my own for sometime now as I really hate his family and how they treat me . I do not have a single family around me and so having 2 under 2 as a single mother I just don’t know how I am going to cope. Cutting the story short… I’m thinking of abortion but I’m so torn💔 I want this baby but I don’t want to be around his family… but will I cope on my own? With two kids?

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First let me commend you for being vulnerable here. God is the one who puts the spirit inside of the babies, body and the womb. Therefore, God has indeed blessed you with this second baby, despite the circumstances. Of course, with the understanding that fornication and having a child out of wedlock has its own consequences. But the good news is this, God has shown you mercy. You don’t have to stay with a man just because you have children with them. He probably isn’t your God ordained husband anyway but notice if God gave you this second child, God will also provide for his child. It’s going to be up to you to have faith. Trust his plan, be obedient to God and follow his will for your life moving forward. As long as you seek to grow your relationship with God, live according to his word, and follow his voice, you will be good. Now there will probably be challenges and tough seasons, but the plus side is you will have God on your side, no better partner in life than Him. You got this!

And not to be insensitive or scare you, but so many Christians ignore that abortions have consequences spiritually speaking. When you abort a child, spiritually, it is a child sacrifice to Molech ( a pagan god in the Bible). This can create a demonic covenant that will open the door to premature death, sickness and more. When I say premature death, it doesn’t have to be literally it can be spiritually. Like everytime you try to do something in lives, it dies before it can even take off. This video explains this topic more. https://youtu.be/N1IKYa0U2yw?si=69HpYoUokP2nlRqO And if you or anyone has done an abortion before, the good news is you can break that demonic covenant through the blood of Jesus. Feel free to message me if you want to learn more about this biblically.

I’m so sorry you’re in this difficult situation. I’m sure you’re feeling very overwhelmed and uncertain about the future. I would encourage you to remember God’s sovereignty during this time - nothing is out of His control or comes as a surprise to Him. And He indeed uses the painful things in our lives for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Of greatest importance is that you have a right relationship with God. That means that you have understood that you (and all of us!) are sinners who have rebelled against His law and stand guilty before Him. But Jesus Christ came down into the world - God Himself in human flesh - in order to live a perfect life and yet die in our place, taking the punishment upon Himself that we deserved. If you repent (turn your back on your sin and ask God for forgiveness) He will forgive you (1 John 1:9) and cleanse you from all sin. Now you may already know and have done all that, but it’s just so important. It is the only way to peace with God!

If you have done that, then you don’t need to be anxious about your future (Matthew 6:25-33) or that of your child. Your Heavenly Father knows your needs even better than you do! The best place for support, counsel and love is the local church, which is the community of fellow Christians that God designed for us to be joined to. If you’re not in membership at a local church I would thoroughly encourage it - not only because it would do you much good, but because it’s commanded in the Bible. I would be happy to help you find a Bible believing church if you’re not sure where to go. As for your situation, I think Christians who know you would be best to advise, but I will just say a few things. 1 is that you need to carefully consider what God wants you to do. That’s not a mystery - that comes from His word (the Bible) where He has explained how we are to live our lives. He says things like “love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” - He can help you do this

Similarly you need to think carefully about whether leaving your partner is what God wants. He makes it very clear in the Bible that His design is for a man and woman to covenant together in marriage and bear children. It’s not always black and white, so I think Christians closer to you would be better to advise on this. But obedience to God, even if difficult, will always be for the best. And finally, I would plead with you not to destroy the life that God has gifted you in your womb. The Bible says that children are a blessing from the Lord, that He knits us together in our mother’s womb. I’d encourage you to read Psalm 139:13-16. You can’t ‘undo’ your pregnancy, you can only kill your baby who is a gift from God. A good church will be there for you even if you find yourself single parenting. And God will always be there for you providing for your needs if you have put your faith in Him. I know you feel torn but abortion will never help. Please do reach out if I can help in any way.