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@Chandra agreed
If you have family nearby, I'd see if they can support and stay their the rest of your pregnancy. I'd let him know but because you're married, most likely you can't withhold custody or whatever. Things will be more complicated. Is it possible to work things out with him and how old are the two of you?
Sometimes though you can get someone to agree to not have custudy before they see and fall in love. Thats why im thinking see if you can process it or start to process it.
@Chandra thats an extreme 😳 we only know a little of one side of the story and to determine one loses custody over a post seems inaccurate to judge. This child has a father and he may just be immature or maybe the mom and dad aren't meant to be. We have no idea the extent of their relationship and baby may be safe with dad. Thats for judges and the court system to decide.
I wouldnt want to be tied to someone who puts me thru that kind of stress and i wouldn't want them to do it to my kid. I would cut ties personally. She can do what makes her happy and safe.
Unfortunately leaving before baby is born isn’t an option as there are so many intricacies which I won’t go to. I’m not in the States, the country where I am would never allow for full custody even when there is abuse involved. Unfortunately the court system want to see whether the father is abusive to the child. I’m not planning on relying on him on anything once I end the marriage. I will leave to authorities to deal with him with CMS & letters of permission of travel can be obtained through the court if he is not cooperative. I already know what to do & have my plan in place but for now I need to focus on being in my best physical & emotional health while protecting my energy for the baby’s arrival & becoming strong to execute my plan once baby is here.
If you leave before the baby is born you can start trying to get full custody right away. See if your state allows it. Its easier to be on your own if you have custody and can go and be where you want to without his say. If hes like this while you are together imagine what it will be like after seperation. You dont want to deal with him forever.