Can I still turn it around?

My son is turning 4 in July. I feel like I’ve failed quite badly with discipline and tantrums. I’ve given in too easily and not held consistent boundaries. I’ve become frustrated and angry. As a result my child snaps at me often and has the most insane meltdowns if he doesn’t get his own way. I am trying to be firm now and not backdown when I’ve said no and to deal with things more calmly. Just wondering if at this age it’s too late ☹️
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Absolutely not. My cousin was a nightmare spoiled brat until she spent one vacation with her grandma. Her grandma was a teacher and we were so shocked at how polite and nice she became once she got back from her visit (it was the entire summer holiday) Her grandma doesn’t hit or yell, she’s just very firm and no nonsense. She was 8 or 9 at the time.

@Hind that’s amazing

You’ll be doing him a world of good in setting boundaries before school becomes an issue. Try to integrate a lot of praise and rewards (stickers etc) for good behaviour so he craves the positive attention instead of negative.

@Steph thank you, in fairness he is in nursery and he’s an angel there so I’m hopeful the same will go for school. It does just show that the structure and rules at nursery do work for him 😕

Check out thatcalmmom and bratbustersparenting on ig (-: both may be helpful

@KayLee I did actually buy the that calm mom course as it was pretty cheap but I just couldn’t stand the woman and all her swearing so I kept turning off. I’ll have a look at the other one x

As a mum of a tween, do it NOW! I didn’t have boundaries or discipline and I didn’t really need too as she was so great BUT coming into her tween years she started playing up BAD and doing things she shouldn’t have and because I hadn’t done this in the past it has been torture trying to do it now. If I could go back in time I definitely wouldn’t have been so easy. Your child is still so young, it’s probably perfect time to implement it!!

I recommend the book Calmer, Easier, Happier Boys. Logical advice that can be implemented into everyday life.

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