How do solve a fight your spouse is having alone? I woke up early because I wanted to get some chores done early so we could have time to go out later ...he took it as I didn't want to be near him

Sorry if I'm misremembering, but does he use a lot of cannabis? If he does, do you think that could be related to why he was going off about nothing? I have an ex who smoked an excessive amount to stay "leveled out" (in his opinion) but in reality he was highly volatile.

@Raqi I think is it that to be honest that and the pig farm he was working at went bust but yeah the cannabis isn't helping for sure but pretty much man pms mode is annoying to deal with

@Jo a lot of men take a huge blow to the ego when work goes sideways, I think for a lot of them, bringing in money and being a provider becomes a huge part of their identity that they can struggle to find their footing without it. I was a very enthusiastic cannabis connoisseur for a long time 😂 There we're definitely periods where it had a negative impact on my mood. But the last time I quit was actually way easier than I ever expected, so I hope cutting back or quitting goes well for him if that's something he decides on!

Reading all the comments is really interesting. My husband is a huge cannabis smoker and smokes on a daily. I wake up as early at 4:00am to do chores and my husband would be dead asleep 😅

@s a r a 🥀 yeah see that's what I was thinking he'll just sleep no biggie but he went on and on about how I don't want to be with him and how I was planning to go on a 15 mile walk to get space away from him and honestly I was planning on planting potatoes with him and the kids today so it was all news to me I bet he had a dream he's got abandonment issues cuz his mom met a new guy when he was a kid and just left him but yeah I was mopping not leaving lol

@s a r a 🥀 I think how you smoke plays a part. A study found many people who use swishers instead of papers are actually nicotine addicted so that’s where more of the aggression when not smoking comes from