Food

Have you looked into ARFID? I’m pretty sure my eldest has it, not the very extreme end of it but still limited diet I make her an alternative if she can’t eat what I’ve made (which is nearly always a safe food but she drops them a fair bit)

@Kierrah it's so difficult cause I know they won't try the food if they know if they won't eat it they'll get something else that they want 🙃x

I offer no alternatives. She generally eats well and likes lots of different things. But hard rule is no alternatives

@Vickie yeah I Guess I'm just scared they'll lose weight or whatever. And I know it's hard cause I don't expect them to like all the things I do but when they won't even try how am I meant to know 🙃x

No, but I also don’t like the thought of him being hungry, so I’ll offer toast or porridge as supper if he’s not eaten his dinner- he doesn’t associate it with not eating dinner, because I also offer that on a nursery day when he’s had dinner but it’s early and he might be a bit hungry before bed. When deciding meals, I always make sure I can offer safe foods alongside new foods, or try and do meals that he can adapt etc. fajitas is a good example- he can serve himself a wrap and the chicken (I offer plain or with the spice mix), he picks the peppers and leaves the onions, adds the salad he likes and tries sauce if he wants to.

My girls get what they're given, if they don't eat then they don't get anything else xx

I don’t have offer alternatives unless I’m cooking something with very strong flavour. For instance I cooked fennel the other day. My son tried and didn’t like it so I did offer him a sandwich instead. But generally no I don’t offer things. I do get his input on what I’m making though. For instance I’ll ask if he wants rice or pasta? The if he chooses pasta I might say.. meaty or veggie? Then I’ll cook from there. It helps with there control!

My daughter will maybe try food if your really push but she still probably won’t eat it because she just can’t stand it. Very different to fussy eating, Axon can be fussy but he can eat stuff he just doesn’t fancy or isn’t a huge fan of. Ada cannot.

It depends why they haven’t eaten it Genuinely don’t like it and have tried it then I’ll make them something else something simple (spaghetti and toast, scrambled eggs, freezer meal) If they’re saying they don’t want it for any other reason then no in general I don’t make anything else :)

If she tries it and doesn't like it I will offer something else but only a sandwich

@Kath I'm really struggling to get them to even try it, they'll say 'ew' the minute I put it down nd for the love of god no matter what strategy I try can't get them to try stuff 🙃x

I give safe foods with one new thing on. I don’t offer an alternative - I do supper 1-2 hours later (toast, Cheerios, banana etc) which she doesn’t associate with dinner. I have a very fussy child with sensory issues (smell and texture). My other child eats everything luckily.

I get this! I think my son has even lost weight over being so fussy so we do offer toast etc. he won’t try anything new either it’s so hard, here for solidarity

Because of maxis ARFID, yes he gets offered a safe meal after exposure to new food or unsafe foods. His big brother is also fussy but it’s more than the foods can’t touch so he has a divider plate and eats the same as us, just not mixed

I would give a sandwich if she doesn’t like her dinner (what we eat) x