Feeling alone

Hi, I am struggling with lack of sleep. Got 3 1/2 hours sleep last night. I am the only one doing the night feeds, my partner has moved into the spare bedroom. As it is easter he has a long weekend off work. So I asked if he could do tonight's feeds so I can get at least one full nights sleep, I haven't slept for more than about 3hrs a night for 5 weeks. But he says if he does this he need to not do anything else and I do all the housework and heavy lifting of laundry etc, today even though I have only had 3 hrs sleep, as if not it will not be equal. But I do not think this is equal either, I had a difficult forceps birth with stitches and I am still getting pains, so I am not meant to be lifting things. I changed the bed sheets and now I am in pain, but he has no sympathy. I thought for one night he could go the extra mile, but when I try to talk to him he just continues to talk about himself. He doesn't seem to care if I reach breaking point or not. I thought I should ask him for help before I reached breaking point, which I am close to, but he is only thinking about himself. I am not sure who I can now turn to for help if I burn out. I feel very alone. I also have flu at the moment which is making things even harder. I just thought for one night he could step up without, what feels like, trying to punish me. I am not sure what to do.

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I am sorry that you are experiencing this :( if you can maybe you two can have a serious talk about this aiming to understand each other and prevent future fights that can do more damage to the relationship. If he doesnt want to cooperate or listen or hear u… perhaps if you are in good terms with his mom or sister that u think can understand, then maybe u can talk to them to talk to him? I hope things get better ❤️

Tell him to pull his head out his ass and help out!! How disrespectful! Very selfish boy! If he doesn’t leave him! Clearly doesn’t understand what you are going through or been through

The sleepless nights do get better eventually but your partner should be contributing too, so if he has a sleepless night hes not doing anything else but expecting you to have a sleepless night aswell as do everything, its really unfair and he shouldn’t leave you to do everything x im sorry youre going through this

I felt exactly the same! I said I agree to do the feeds in the night and because hes working he will do the bedtime feed before midnight, and if I ask him todo something or he sences I’m stressed he now will ask what I want doing ect… I also said to him at the beginning that hes just teaching me that I can do this on my own and that I don’t need him… and I think that shed some light sort of thing aswell! When I say it gets better, it will! Just explain how tired you are and everything try and go for a sleep before he goes to bed so he has baby, that’s what we were doing but now the tiredness just gets easier your body kind of gets used to it I just go to bed eairler:3 With the night feed if he’s off just say I’m not asking you now I’m telling you I’m exhausted and I need help so put yourself in the spare room to sleep and he can sleep with the baby for one night… I did that when I was struggling I went and slept on the sofa and made him deal with her so he didn’t have a choice xx

Things do get better once he starts to understand! But I agree he is being selfish but I honestly understand completely how you feel😞

Tell him to stop being a child

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