Postpartum rage

How to deal with it? Part of me thinks it’s post partum rage part of me thinks I just have a selfish partner. My partner has been away all week working so I’ve been parenting alone and had a tough week with baby teething and barely getting any sleep. My partner has been sending me pics having a few pints in the pub after work each day winding down. He gets back yesterday and has a nice long bath because been working hard, and then he has a lie in today (gets up at 12pm). I get up with the baby at 7, and I thought I’ll get everything sorted as it’s bank holiday weekend and he’s off work today so we were going to do something, baby goes down for a nap and I clean the house for 90 mins and literally do everything, as well as his mess and clothes washing. He gets up and I say I’ve sorted all the recycling but can you just take the bins out? (I basically put a bin outside by the back door, and he goes ‘I don’t understand why you can’t just take it out?’ Meaning if I’m taking the bin bag out and putting it outside why can’t I walk to the back of the house and put it in the bin. I don’t want to leave my 9 month old in the house alone but that’s not even the point, Is this man okay??? I am absolutely raging. I just can’t help but snap and then my whole mood is ruined and I just feel so angry I could burst into tears. He will then think I’m being dramatic and will gaslight me ‘you’re always in a mood’, Didn’t get a good morning didn’t get a thanks for sorting the house or getting up with the baby or doing all my clothes. I ask him to do ONE small thing and I get that comment. The lack of basic care, empathy and emotional intelligence just drives me fucking insane.