Having doubts about my partner
Hi all - I’m really struggling with doubts about my partner specially is he the one for me and am I making a mistake having a child with him?
I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant and recently I’m struggling to find the attraction. We haven’t had sex in a weeks (mainly because of me not wanting to because of growing pains, just tiredness etc) but I do look at other men in the gym and think ah he’s so much more my type?
I know this may sound ridiculous!
I am the main provider in the relationship (I earn significantly more than him). I pay for the mortgage (UK based), the cleaner, the window cleaner, the food shop, plus everything for the baby currently and my half of the bills and all he pays for is his half of the bills (water, gas, electric, council tax, wifi) and that’s it.
I don’t know but I just don’t even know if I find him attractive because I’m put into the traditional masculine spot? And now these feelings have been excelled by pregnancy hormones.
I guess I don’t really know what I’m asking for advice on - maybe how to bring back my relationship?
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Pregnancy does play a part, but if the lifestyle you live with your partner isn't the one you want, that's not because of pregnancy. Have you discussed him finding a better job or going to get more qualifications?
You definitely feel more heightened emotions towards everything during pregnancy, but your financial situation needs evaluating. Why doesn’t he pay/contribute towards his child’s essentials & half the mortgage? Yes, you may earn more but you’re a team & during maternity leave, will he be able to support you both?
What made you attracted to your partner before? I think it’s the pregnancy/hormones that’s why your feeling like this. And finance I don’t think you should be taking on most of the things he should.
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I would say pregnancy hormones play a huge part! My partner would give me SO MANY icks during my first pregnancy. But it does pass. As for the money side of things, maybe that needs revisiting? Sounds like you pay significantly more. What’s the percentages end up as?