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Post partum depression?

Hi everyone, I don’t know who else to turn too so please don’t judge me. I’m a mum to 8 week old twins and also a two year old toddler and the past couple of weeks have been a struggle for me. I suffer already from anxiety and depression but this feels completely different, I just feel like I don’t love my newborns, I feel like I’m just baby sitting someone else’s children, the second I get the option to be away from them I couldn’t be more happy. I just feel constantly miserable, I’m unhappy and that’s now taking it’s toll on my relationship with my partner to the point we are now at eachothers throats and basically living separately in the same house. I’m at home with all 3 children all day and I never get a break and when I do it’s just to pop to the local shops for things we need and then I come rushing right back because my partner can’t cope with the children but when I’m with them he doesn’t seem to care. I’m tired 24/7 and I just don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel and I spend most of my days just in tears and whenever someone asks if I’m okay I have to smile and say “oh I’m just tired” when deep down it’s so much more. Is this post partum depression? Is it going to get better on its own or do I need to speak to my GP 😔

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Sending you lots of love and solidarity. Do you have any close family or friends you can speak to about this? I would really recommend speaking to your GP. Just know that none of this makes you a bad parent, you are finding it hard because it IS hard. I really hope you find the support you need xx

It is hard. I find it so hard with one baby, I can’t imagine twins! It will get easier as they get older, but it’s hard to see that when you’re in the middle of it. I really would reach out to your GP. I think you will feel better to share how you’re feeling and they could really help. Also if you have any friends or family you could talk to, it could really help.

@Bethan I don’t have anyone 😔 my family don’t really understand the whole mental health thing and my friends haven’t even met the twins yet so I doubt they have time to listen to me 😔😭

You are doing amazing & remember it is difficult especially with twins. Please reach out to your doctor or health visitor as they have support options in place to help with mental health. Don’t feel guilty for feeling like this, you are a good mum & things will get better even if it doesn’t feel like it currently, take one day at a time xx

I have an 8 week old and since he’s been born I’ve had lots of help from both my MIL and my mum. Including during the night. The circumstances were a bit different for me as I’ve been on crutches throughout my whole pregnancy so couldn’t really cope without help. However, even if I were physically more healthy I couldn’t have imagined doing this on my own with just the help of my husband. What I’m trying to say is that people like you are like heroes to me, I don’t know where you get the strength to do all that you’re doing with twins AND a toddler. Just wow! I’m not an expert on depression, as others have already commented definitely seek help from your GP but I definitely think you’re under huge stress and it’s quite impossible to feel any different right now. Sorry I can’t be of any help I just want to say I admire you and I’m rooting for you.

It's sounds like you're completely overstimulated and overwhelmed which anyone would be in your shoes! Deffo could be postnatal depression so please reach out to your GP for help with this. But I would say it really sounds like you've got a lot on your plate so don't feel bad for feeling this way. I know it's hard to see right now but I promise this is temporary, you are really in the trenches and it'll get easier as they get less physically dependent on you. Sometimes people don't have the love at first sight feeling with their babies and that's ok, you are getting to know each other still, doesn't mean you don't love them and will grow to love them more and more. Give yourself some grace, you're doing amazingly in a very hard situation, hope you're ok and do reach out. Ask your health visitor for some resources too, best to just be honest with them and they can help you x

If you are anywhere near me, let me know. I’ll be happy keep you company now and again. I have an 8 week old LG and so I can only imagine what youre going through with 3 LO. Sending you hugs. X

I think it's understandable why you feel so tired and things are difficult with 3 two and under I'm sure it is non stop for you. When people ask how you are tell them the truth it's the best way to protect yourself. I would reach out to the GP. No one will judge you it's something many mothers suffer with. Have you told the other parent how you feel?

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