😒 would you do the same?

I feel more context is needed. Why does he assume you will start drama? Have you done so in the past?

More context is definitely needed. But just based off of what you've written and how you've written it, seems like he has a point. He must know you and is suggesting not going because maybe there's a pattern and knows what you say about her when you're just the two of you. So I wouldnt really crucify him the way you're wanting to because he probably just wants a drama free outing.

I feel like your reaction to him saying that makes me think you probably would start something as you seem very angry about something but obviously more context is needed

He wouldn’t be worried you’ll start shit unless you’ve done it before? Like where did that come from, why does he think that. No average man would accuse his partner of starting shit if she’s never before? That’s not something my partner would accuse me of. Just tell him you promise you’re not going to start anything and that both of you go to the party and have fun like any other normal couple. Why would you lock him out? If he wants to come let him. And why you involve her into your biz and tell her? That’s not her problem. This is between you and him. If she’s having a party she’s probably already got her own stresses of organising and hosting going on, she doesn’t need to know any of this lol.

@Katie i don't start shit I end shit if I'm dragged in to it cuase I stay away from drama

@Vee the party/hangout is at a hotel , I never started shit with her nor him I ended the shit I'm dragged into by others like how his ex / babymama started shit I told him about it n left it at that I don't ever start shit but I end the shit I'm dragged into

@Emilie I'm pissed cuase I was invited BY HER to go n his telling me he don't want me to go n i asked y he said drama so I asked y try being her friend just fucking block her if he thinks that but no he ment me starting shit what I never have done

Agree with some of the others, your response here seems like you may be inclined to drama, and I can’t imagine he would say it without some sort of reason?! I’m sure you are really lovely, but maybe sometimes you get a little heated?

I’m so confused. Why does he think there would be drama in the first place if you guys are all just friends?

@Kellie her husband hosting / throwing it really she just inviting friends n it's at a hotel ...... what are my man intentions of being so addiment on going with out me to a hotel party/hangout ? N I told him if he goes imma be pissed at him cuase of that if it was like at a park or a pool then I wouldn't care BUT it's at a hotel

@Rachel if i wanted to start something I would of already I'm pissed at him for realy wanting to go with out me after he said I can come on top of being invited to go by her now what fucking changed from a few hours ago ? Oh cuz he wants to do stupid shit n win stupid prizes I could of waited to post this when I wasn't pissed but I wanted honest answer

@Emilie that's what I don't get that y I'm pissed at him n willing to tell her if he goes by him self n lies to me about it cuz I have a feeling that he gunna lie n go there claiming his gunna work on a friend's car

See there’s a pattern - cause and effect He knows you and you know him as well. “Because it’s a hotel” lack of trust probably If that’s your point then if you ain’t going he’s not going anywhere period.

@Precious oh I was invited so y can't I go to something she her self invited me to 🤷‍♀️ it aint his party so he has 0 say on who goes

OP are you the same person who recently posted that your husband is being an emotional support crutch for a female friend who calls and texts all hours of the night? The same husband who won't tell her to stop even though you've asked him to cut communication with/block her?

@Ashleigh I'm unsure what your talking about 🤷‍♀️ I'm rarely on this app inless I'm looking for advice on something and that what I wanted to know about since I had asked a few of my personal friends who all say it's really odd on top of the fact he doesn't want go when I'm invited ? And take a 30 min drive to just say hi ? Ans stay for 30mins to an hour so he wants to do something that isn't just to say hi clearly he wants something esle from that hotel party/hang out

I think it's strange, and maybe he's seeing her and worried you'll notice their intentions if you go.

🤦‍♀️ I hate to even ask this but have you seen their texts and interactions? Is she taken? Like… it seems weird that he doesn’t want you there and the drama thing is a lame excuse. Something is off girl. I really hope not…. but who acts like this?

Honestly I think it's weird that he would go alone to another woman's party while you would stay home even though you were invited and it's your friend...does he step out on you? That seems suspicious. However I will admit that if you are prone to speaking with the same tone you wrote in ...that won't do you any favors ... You need to speak with force clarity and politely so that he sounds crazy and you sound like you are in the right because you sound like you are in the right but nobody will hear your point if you say it offensively

@Jo like I said in a comment I should of waited till I wasn't as pissed as I was when I posted it but the hole convo I had with him was clam an collected till I told him then just block her and don't go I left it as that but to me it seems to be choosing her over me for what reason other then the drama that wouldn't of been there inless she started shit with me

I don't think he's very respectful of you that would bother me.....

@Kerri ✨ she married , drama is a lame reason why and I'm pissed at him still , nothing in there text seem off but that doesn't mean anything when I'm not home if they call

@Jo I would do something more the lock him out but I don't need to be in jail , and this is the 1st Time his done this

I’m sorry. Men can be so shitty sometimes. I hope you both end up going and have fun. Otherwise let him do whatever and YOU go out with some girlfriends or something. Keep his ass wondering 😒

@Kerri ✨ if he rather go to the party I'll hang out with a guy drinking a night since husband wants to play stupid games that's what he'll win since he'll be drinking while there so y can't I hang out with a guy while also drinking 🤷‍♀️ ik how to keep my pants on I'm not sure how well he can when drunk cuase we don't drink often

I support that! Keep us posted if you don’t mind! I’m officially invested 🙃

Looks like a not very healthy relationship.

@Kerri ✨ I want a valid reason why he wants to go n he said it's cuase it's her birthday party 😒 that ain't a valid reason so now his pissed off cuase of it n she called me to figure something out but now his not going cuase I ruined it n said we arnt also so o fucking well I told him if he realy wanted to fucking go then go it's not like I want time away from our child also but he has all this shit going on where I'm stuck with our child glued to my hip so I can't have any fun oh I assumed he figured out child care before hand but apparently nope that never happened since he knew I was invited cuase I told him my family member couldn't since they have a thing going on tonight

It sounds like you don’t trust him? Maybe try and have a calm conversation about it, but it seems like perhaps this guy isn’t the right man for you, from the things you’ve been saying to others about this whole situation

Ah my bad - your style of writing and venting tone just seemed very similar to that of another recent poster who was also having some issues with her partner and a female friend. No judgement here 👐🏽 Hope you guys work it out 🤞🏽