Due second in a week

Hey can someone please tell me this feeling shifts.. We are due our second daughter in a week via elective c section, and we’re so excited to welcome our second child into the world but I can’t help but so guilty towards my first born😭 she is 21 months and I just can’t help but feel like we are taking away the ‘only child’ feeling too soon and she is just going to hate us, she’s going to be an amazing big sister I know but all I have done the last week is cry, I’m so scared for this change😭

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@Anna Thankyou so much, I feel like all I’m doing is crying so I feel bad for the baby but I feel bad for my daughter because I’m bringing so much change🥲xxx

No don't worry, it will be fine. My second son was 19 months when my third was born.. He loves the baby so much. Couple of tips though.. To make it easier.. When your daughter comes to the hosptial after birth, make sure baby is in her cot, greet your daughter and make her feel happy and then introduce her.. So she doesn't come in and see you already with another child. Also, when you do get home, involve her alot but also put boundries in a nice way.. This helped me. My son was very handsy and I had to direct him to put his hands away from baby etc so when he goes to kiss him he knows his hands can't be on baby as he will get hurt.. I kept redirecting him with certain things for a week and then I didn't need to worry much. I made sure when baby was in my arms that I would get him to come and say hello ect he gets babys nappy when needed ect I feel like this defo helped with not making him feel any different. If you involve her she will feel like she is a big part of you and baby xx

@Khadiijah thAnkyou I really appreciate this❤️

I think it’s perfectly normal to mourn the end of that little only child era. I did it too. But the love isn’t shared, it grows. And watching your first baby fall in love with your second is MAGIC xx

Thankyou everyone for all your kind words, it really has made me look more at the positive side, I know I shouldn’t be doubting it anyway but I think we all do it, I’m excited to see our new chapter🩷

Maybe because I'm the youngest of 4 but I truly don't understand what people mean when they say they are worried about forgetting the first child or taking away their 'only' status.. it's likely just hormones so it'll definitely pass if you make a decision to still treat your first child the same there's nothing to be sad about 🖤

Normal to be sad but it's going to be the best thing in a few months when they can play together.

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