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I need advice

So my fiance and I have a 15 month old. We've been engaged for almost 2 years (I keep pushing back getting married not because I don't want to marry him) but we've recently decided we want to get married but we've been wanting another baby. I'll most likely end up having another c section and that's expensive. We've been holding off getting married because if we don't get married I can have Medicaid and Medicaid pays for the pregnancy and birth and with my first I had pre-eclampsia. We've set a date for next year. We decided we'd have another baby and then get married. But should we get married and then have another baby and get regular health insurance and pay whatever it doesn't cover? With both our income we don't make a lot of money but too much for government assistance. I don't want or need judgment or hate for needing assistance for pregnancy and birth. It's expensive and so is life it's self. And before anyone says "don't have a baby if you can't afford it" there's a difference between being able to afford the baby and being able to afford all the doctor appointments/birth. We can afford another child but not the doctors

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Me and my husband had a whole wedding ceremony and everything we just didn't file the paper work. He has ssi and my income can affect him and I didn't wanna do that to him. I had my mom marry us and I just changed my last name.

Marriage is a business deal and after you decide you wanna do life together you make smarter decisions that may not *look* like the norm but will help your new family progress. We got married after both kids for many reasons including the fact that I qualify for low income homeowner programs alone and my partner makes WAY too much money. We also got a larger tax refund for the last time this year but next year we file jointly and it takes me out of the low income bracket

I’m married and just have myself and my son on Medicaid. I just put married, file taxes separately and I’m not working. Such a relief knowing we don’t need to pay all those medical bills. There’s ways around it, legally. What state are you in?

I’m waiting because the hospital will approve more financial aid when I give birth if I’m single (currently pregnant again) Also he pays child support and we want to wait and see how upcoming courts play out. I don’t think there is a right or wrong reason to wait. Do what’s best for your family

You need to do what is best for you and your family!! A lot of people get secretly married before they actually ceremony, who says you can't have a ceremony without the papers and get courthouse married later?!