Am I being OTT?
For some background, me and my BD split in December due to domestic violence, we started seeing each other for a month recently and split 2 weeks ago again. He started seeing someone else 2 days later, she has messaged me asking what’s happened between us etc, and said that he’s asked her to move in in 3 days of them talking. We said we wouldn’t let our new parents meet our son until we know them fully and properly, we are on a social worker plan due to the DV and they are even a bit iffy about him having him. He’s saying it’s none of my business what he does, but asking practically strangers to move in with him when he has our child every weekend feels like my business. Thoughts?
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@Neena yeah I know I have messaged him about it and he said he won’t be introducing anyone to him but I just have doubts. I do need therapy I’m absolutely broken, thank you I’ve had this book on my wishlist and ordered now xx
He sounds deranged and unhinged - asking someone to move in after 3 days of talking 🥴 and absolutely it is your business if it involves your child. Involve the courts. Get legal advice on what to do to prevent him from having your child. As for you, you need therapy ASAP. You said you split up due to DV yet you decided to take him back. That is the most dangerous and illogical thing you could have done. You need to speak to someone about exploring your trauma so you NEVER take him back and also never fall for another abuser in the future. Also read Lundy Bancroft’s book ‘Why does he do that?’ it will help you immensely.