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True yes it’s a running theme though like calculating costs of music class, his food etc. I keep hearing phrases “that’s expensive”. It’s just very petty!
My MIL is very invested like this, I have learned to understand that she’s genuinely astonished by the price of things compared to when she raised my husband. I wonder if it’s a similar perspective? Xx
Could be.
In my opinion, this is absolutely none of her business and your spouse should shut the conversation down as politely as he can. It’s insensitive and inappropriate. Although my in laws don’t care enough to ask. My mother and grandmother harass and pester me daily with comments on these topics. My mom constantly harasses me and demands to know when and if I’m going to be on birth control. My grandma makes rude comments about how I have a baby every year and will be pregnant again next year. Often compares me to any kind of animal who has multiple offspring. You know what I tell them? I tell them to fuck off. At the end of the day none of these people are helping you take care of your children or contributing financially. Their questions, comments, or concerns are completely irrelevant and hold no value.
Oh wow so sorry that they are doing that to you! I stand firm as well in my belief that it is tacky AF! I wish I had known this about her before marrying but too late now.
My husband is generous though however every holiday & bday I can expect only her to be frugal w/ her only grandson & she def. Has the means !!
it sounds like they’re just thinking how they normally would for being workaholics, probably just naturally asking questions they would worry about if they were in your shoes. odd to ask and slightly invasive if it was said in such a tone as anything but a pure question. i wouldn’t read into it too much but maybe just say you know you will be comfortable no matter what life throws at you