Is he scared for your daughter and working is how he copes? Some people need the distraction instead of sitting there just stewing in their thoughts. It's not healthy or fair to your family but could still be an answer
@Sarah no he isn’t, as he told me he believed everything was fine and would be okay. I’d understand if he was like that but he very much isn’t. I just think he’s obsessed with working or enjoys it more than being at home because he knows at home I expect him to help with our daughter as I don’t expect him to help when he is working
Sounds like he’s checked out of your relationship and also family life. He doesn’t even have the excuse of an unsupportive employer so literally he is abandoning you both because he is CHOOSING to do so. If it wasn’t work, he would still have another excuse. Tbh what he’s doing is inexcusable and quite frankly if I were in your shoes I would be giving him an ultimatum. Either you come with us today and sort your priorities out afterwards too, or when you get back from the appointment, you’ll be packing his bags and he can fuck off elsewhere.