Selfish husband

Its been such a non stop bickering. We fight every week. I called him selfish asshole in my head yesterday. Basically yesterday I fed the kid, bathed her, changed her soiled diapers all the while when he was browsing the web. I am a work frm home mum and he is currently jobless. His job when I work is to ensure the kid doesnt come screaming to me when Im in meetings. And she is easy to care for. So after she was fed, we were supposed to have dinner and watch one of our favourite shows together. Im doing the dishes and he says he will come shortly. By now I lost my apetite and its too late as well but Im quiet. Without any consideration, he takes a long shower (1/2 hour) while Im waiting. Wen he comes out, I simply mock him playfully ‘how was the shower? Im sure u had fun cs Im famished’ and he snaps. He said im nagging all the time, that he cannot even peacefully shower bla bla. He says ‘i only took 1/2 an hour whereas if I wanted i could have taken an hour’ All the while wasting time browsing the web, watching youtube and Instagram, i didnt say a word except call him twice saying lets eat together. Instead of wasting time, he could have taken shower then and joined me after I was done with the dishes. I had made a special meal and dinner usually we have together. I mean this incident is not a big one. Its just that wen u do all the work and ur man has the leisure, he shud b atleast considerate. All he does is grocery and take out the trash. He doesnt waste time mocking me when i watch soapy programs but 1/2 an hour is wat i get to watch my shows and he wont allow it if we are eating together. But we watch wat he wants. Selfish mf. Ughh and he talk so loud my ears ring and everything about him annoys me these days. We were ok and very much in love but he irks me so often these days I just want a break. I think about the time when another guy was crazy about me and I didnt even give him so much as a glance. U shud see him spoil his wife. This one bought me an apple watch 2 years ago and till this day keeps reminding me of that.

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Oh no, you work from home and he's unemployed. He needs to be the one doing more of the chores around the house and taking care of the babies. You can help him but it should mostly be him doing the work. Or he better be out there getting off his ass and getting a fucking job

God he sounds like a treat! Perhaps you should let him go out there without a job and see how he does it! He is a man child. You don't need this type of energy!

Tell him since you are working, he is the stay at home dad until he finds a job.

Ahhh it sounds like you need to have a good honest and open chat about your frustrations. Why exactly isn’t he working right now? If it’s out of choice then I would put together a plan with him on what his chores are and the things he needs to be doing with your LO so you’re not burdened with it all…plan in evenings where you get to pick your shows and he gets his and the same with switch off and alone times. I think you just need to be really clear with men like that, like literally spell it out because a lot of them seem to have zero emotional intelligence or awareness when it comes to supporting us around the house or with baby…it’s almost like an expectancy! Hope you manage to sort it hun xx

@Nisha thanks 🤗 i agree with the literal spell out part. He is like a toddler. Gotta hammer it thru his thick skull lol.

Haha yeah, I mean I had to do the same with my hubby and he’s great now at helping and supporting me around the house but he still doesn’t have the awareness to do little things I would say are just common sense, I have to tell him and he does do it if I ask 😂 men eh….can’t live with em, can’t live without em xx

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