Do I involve my mum too much? Long post sorry
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Sounds like a dream to me.
It sounds like a lovely set up, if you’re all happy with it, why change anything? We are living with my parents right now and I love it!
If it works for you and your family I don’t see it being a problem xx
If you're all happy, there's no problem! She sounds like an awesome mum! Maybe just suprise her with a bunch of flowers and a card letting her know how lucky you feel and check in that she's still happy giving all the help she is but honestly, I'm kind of jealous! My mum is great, I wouldn't change her for the world but I'd love that kind of help xx
I’d love that ! Sounds perfect to me. My mum still works full time and also looks after her elderly parents so I only get help from her on Fridays which is her day off, and I’m so grateful for that ! She already said when she retires in a few years she’d like to be neighbours and basically do what you guys are doing. I can’t wait for that. I’m from Poland and my generation a lot of people lived with extended family. As a child we lived with my mum’s parents, and my dad’s parents lived in the same town and visited at least twice a week to help. This level of involvement of grandparents is completely normal in most parts of the world and I honestly think a lot of mental health struggles of especially mums nowadays is from having to do it all alone. I know I feel very lonely and overstimulated most days. It takes a village, we were never meant to do it all alone.
My MIL and FIL live few doors down and they help out thru day a lot but a lot less regular with eldest as during the week as toddler goes nursery. But they basically do out gardening n keep our kitchen clean and we share some food. But they all like their privacy and me time so lots of boundaries and protected time was already set up, in advance. Like first reply- its only a problem if u feel it is or want a change. For me only problem is my hubby helps in garden or low priority DIY or house chores rather than quick DIY i need him to do asap, but its a minor annoyance for the many other positives we get instead
I talk to and update my mum every day. We go to see her maybe every other day or at least 3 times a week
That sounds like a lovely relationship! If it’s healthy, positive and not causing any issues then continue as is! Anyone would be blessed to have a mum like that
Me and my mum talk several times a day, see her atleast 3 times a week. I would literally buy the house next door if it went up for sale. I don’t think it’s a problem unless you think it’s a problem if you know what I mean
My mum & dad live a 5 minute walk away (2 streets over) and me and the baby visit every afternoon for an hour or two. My husband uses this time to do some chores and chill. We've done this every day since she's been born and she's 1 next week ❤️
Don’t think that is a problem! My mums/ siblings/ grandma live 2 doors away- my little one nearly 3months: they will make efforts to see her all the time! I don’t mind all the helps tbh u shouldn’t either! As we very lucky to get that kind of supports where other mums really struggles with lack of supports or don’t have that kind of relationship with their family! 💕
I’m glad that there are loads of others with family support 🤍 I just saw so many people only saying they see their parents once or twice a week, or not liking the idea of being neighbours with their families and thought am I the weird one. It definitely does take a village to have children and my mum absolutely loves to have them and I even have my eldest paint/scribble some artwork for her fridge for her.
She’s basically helping you raise them. It’d be too much for me because I have different beliefs of what happens when you create your own family, but that doesn’t mean it’s too much for you. It’s whatever you’re fine with.
You are really lucky to have help and a relationship like that with your mom! My mom lives in another country but she comes to visit often! Whenever she’s away I call her around 5 times a day if I’m at home or we spend the entire afternoon on a call!! I absolutely love her, she’s definitely the best friend I could ever have
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This sounds like my mom and grandma lol. My parents live not even a full block from my grandparents. I practically lived with my grandparents over the summer bc they were close enough to walk to, and it was just cool to say I could walk somewhere alone as a kid. My grandma cooks for the whole family every day, still, and I'm 28 now. I wouldn't mind living closer to my mom now. We talk on her way to work, on her way home, and every night before my daughter goes to bed 😂
Sounds like a dream, I wish I was neighbours with my mum, I see once every 2 weeks and the day I see her, I literally act like I have no kids, she does everything and enjoys it 😂
It’s only a problem if you think it is, or if your partner would like more time as a family. If you’re all happy with how things are then there’s no issue!