I feel like a horrible mom..
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Hi! Do you expect him to do long division or wash the laundry? No! That's crazy, right? His brain is not capable of that, right? He's also not capable of sitting still and making cognitive decisions! This is not a parenting problem! You are not bad. He is not bad! You are both learning and that's okay! Drs offices understand that and if they don't, girl find a new one! A lot of times as new moms it's really easy to put a ton of expectations on ourselves and our kiddos that aren't realistic. Let that go. When I take my autistic 5 year old to the dr with my 1 year old in tow I follow them around and keep them safe by redirecting them. Exploring is developmentally normal and appropriate and it's okay! I'm sorry that you had a hard visit. Try to go easier on yourself!
@Melissa yes this ✨
First be the funny mom tickle him and have a happy energy if your too serious and over thinking that he will do these things he will sense it off u and just do what he wants ,think of his age he just wants to have fun and play so get on his level and do it it dosent matter what others think he will just be gratefull he is having fun with his mom 🙏☺️❤️
My 2 yr old girl is the same. Runs to places she shouldn't. She won't sit on my lap like a sweet, calm child. Doesn't listen. Runs away. I don't get embarrassed. I get tired out running after her. And she's heavy too.
Next time buckle him in the stroller
bring snacks always.
I had a very similar experience recently at my newborn’s pediatrician appt with my 2.5 year old running around the room, getting into everything, and not listening. Then a full on tantrum when I put shoes back on. In the moment, it was extremely frustrating and I was embarrassed. It felt stressful. It looks like you already got some good advice. I just wanted to comment and say you’re not alone and you are not a horrible mom at all. Having another baby is a HUGE adjustment. For you and your 2.5 year old. Give yourself and your toddler grace 🫶 You’re both learning this new way of life with a new baby.
I don't feel embarrassed by anything my little one does for I feel that if anyone doesn't know an judges you for it they shouldn't because this is kids. They are supposed to be wild crazy and free I don't think kids get enough time in nature these days confined to rooms and boring company, you have to get on their level and have fun, let them be wild and free and provide enough stimulation. I go by example of my nephews and my pare ts they get them to sit in the living room or play in there, when I go round I'm getting them dancing taking them to park, playing with them, bring physically present and engaging them in activity fun and challenging activity.
1) you're not a horrible mom. Toddlers want to get into everything. They have zero impulse control until around 3 years of age. It's normal. 2) when you try to direct his behavior, do you use negatives or positives? As in, do you tell him what NOT to do, or what he SHOULD be doing? Toddlers at that age don't fully grasp negatives, so they may not understand "don't do this." Try instead to tell him what he SHOULD do - so, for example, instead of "please don't climb on the chairs," try "can you come down and keep your feet on the floor, please?" I have tried this in practice and it works so much better. Also, model the behavior you want to see. Stay calm and speak clearly, if you get stressed then he will pick up on it. Also, he's not laughing because he thinks you're a joke. Toddlers and babies laugh sometimes when they just have no other reaction, especially if you're speaking in an unfamiliar, disciplinary tone you don't normally use. It's akin to nervous laughter when someone says something awkward.