In laws visit

My in-laws are coming over this weekend, and I’m already feeling anxious about it. Whenever they visit, I end up completely drained. They usually stay from 10 in the morning until 9 at night, and it really throws off my baby’s sleep schedule because his naps get interrupted. Honestly, I dread these visits. I feel torn on one hand, I want my baby to have a relationship with his grandparents, but on the other hand, my MIL isn’t kind to me, which makes it hard to want her around. I feel guilty for feeling this way… but does anyone else relate? Or is it just me?

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Yes and my mother in law is so nice . But it makes me anxious. Never felt that way tell having a baby .

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Definitely relate, if possible set plans for an outing so that it’s sort of on a schedule or even say you’re booked for the day so their visit can only be so long. My in laws (specifically MIL) has done this to me many times so our outings are either shopping and lunch or if they visit my home I will tell them to come for lunch or dinner and say that we are going out after or starting bedtime routine

I have major anxiety with my in-laws too

@Ashleigh sameee it got worse when I had a baby. It’s because they pass him around like a toy. I feel so protective of him every time. I’m Like gollum from the lord of the rings “my precious “ 😭😂

@Liv omggg I’ll try that next time. Thank you 🙏🏼 🩷

@Chantal soooo hard 😩😩😩

The best piece of advice I got was from my pregnancy counsellor and that’s to set boundaries with them- it’s probably best it coming from your partner I had to tell my brother not to come up in the evenings as it was messing with our schedule That’s a very long time for them to visit, which means you’ll also be drained! It’s exhausting having people over never mind that long Even setting boundaries like ‘it’s his nap time now so I’m putting baby to sleep so baby doesn’t get disturbed until he wakes’ We are having to put boundaries in place with mainly my MIL but I’ve said to my husband my family too about picking baby up all the time. My baby is more happy sat down playing with toys with you not sitting or your knee and he gets so upset when being passed about. As soon as he falls asleep on my after a feed my MIL jumps up taking him from me, these things have to stop for us now cos it’s not fair on baby

I get drained by my in laws after 3 hrs tbh.

I would set loving boundaries. Like "mil, FIL, it's time for baby to sleep now. So please enjoy your time in town or be very quiet". Baby is not a doll and as grandparents they may also want to respect baby's sleep. Maybe just tell them what you expect from them ?

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