I feel defeated.

He is a funny guy and I see humor along with some pain in this post. Boys have unmatched energy. A friend of mine, same like u has a first born- girl and the second a boy. She compares her boy to a husky, if she doesnt tire him out, he gets destructive, monstrous and mad. She takes turns with her husband to take him to the park to tire him out so they can sleep peacefully 😂 I have one daughter n she is like urs, very sweet, very understanding. Guess girls r like that. But u hang in there mama, ull look back with the fondest of memories 🤗

Your husband was so happy to see you, he got you pregnant! 😂 Sorry, I couldn’t help laughing at that part. Have you thought about employing a sleep trainer? Might be worth looking into as it’s a lot trickier to embed good sleep habits at this age. If you had a medical problem, you’d see a doctor. So there’s no shame in seeking expert help for this. Also, this all sounds like pretty standard second child stuff. The first born is a dream and that’s how they trick you into giving them a sibling who is 99% gremlin. Try to remember that it’s all just a phase. Nothing with kids is permanent. Just as soon as you work out how to manage them, they go and switch things up on you.

We had the wild and crazy boy first. Hoping our 4 month old ends up more easy going. So, my eldest at 2.5 sometimes sleeps through the night, sometimes not. But switching him to a toddler bed and then a twin bed helped us. I could cuddle him to sleep and just sleep with him in the middle of the night if need be. Night weaning has been helpful if you still give milk at night. We also have a dimmer on his light so when we go into his room we dim the lights and he gets quiet play time and then books and a little singing. That routine is helping a lot. Does your little one have one nap or two? Might be time to switch to 1 nap or try making the nap shorter. For tantrums, offering choice helps. Ms Rachel and Daniel tiger also have really good episodes for emotions and regulating. They are both good for young children. I find they also give me tools to work through tantrums. Good luck!

I have a 4.5 year old boy now… I was going through my phone the other day and saw a video of when he was 18 months parting at 2am as he was excited he could talk (in gibberish). They go through a lot of developmental leaps and have a lot of energy- it will settle down, I promise! By 3 he was far more settled and began to sleep through the night! Yes- 3 years before he slept through the night haha. I don’t know how I got through it but I did. You will to! Tbh it does sound developmentally normal. Their brains haven’t developed enough yet to want to reason or hear the word no. Plus your little girl didn’t have anyone to have to share with or share your attention, so the environment your little girl had is different to the environment your boy is in. Can you and your husband take shift? Do you have a support network that could take him for a sleep over?

Ohhh, I feel you. You are tired and need support so you can have that sleep! I wish I could help because I know exactly how that feels

My 1st born is the difficult one. She sleeps fine but refuses to eat and we've been struggling to keep her weight up. She's been hospitalized for failure to thrive. She's in feeding and speech therapy now. She's in a hitting/biting/throwing phase right now as well. My son isn't a good sleeper, but he eats anything and everything, so we are so grateful for that. We keep a couple toys in his crib (board book, teething toy, etc) for when he wakes up so he entertains himself until he goes back to sleep. Sometimes it doesn't work but a lot of the time it does, and he seems to be getting into the habit of just reaching for a toy rather than crying.

My boys have been the happiest, easiest children. But the girls in my daycare class before I had my boys were 110% drama, attitude and stubbornness. I always hoped not to have girls lol 😅

It just feels like he needs to either be in my arms, or nursing (ebf), or always touching me for some reason. He screams like a banshee if he doesn’t get his way and we live in an apartment. So at night time the only way to get him to stop yelling is by feeding him. I mean he legit will sit there and continuously punch and smack me and scream at me unless I feed him. My husband works all the time in construction so the kids are my job 😩

I hear this. My daughter has been brilliant and beautiful from the beginning. My son, well, he's more of a husky. 🤣 He's getting really cute, though. These days, he usually sleeps through, but if he gets up in the night, I make him lay in my arms until he's tired, no partying! Sometimes, it takes an hour and a half, but he's back to sleep. In addition to telling him to go back to sleep, I say it hurts mommy to be awake in the night. It does seem to speak to the small sense of empathy he has so far.... Hopefully, you're seeing progress over time. Hang in there, and good luck 🍀

I have two boys.3 and also 18months. And I do honestly think they harder than girls at first. But it does get better. My 3 year old was super busy from day one and recently came out of a phase where he was a right knob. But now his a sweetie. my 18 month old also still doesn't sleep in and is way more sensitive and busy than my oldest so not looking forward to his knob phase. My 18 month old currently wakes up at 12am and is ready to go and only falls asleep at around 3am and then is up up at 5. But like with my oldest the sleep gets better my oldest was sleeping through properly from about 2. The emotions you looking at about 3-4 years

I am the same had a girl first and she slept like a dream. Now 16 months along with my boy and I’ve barely slept. I didn’t know if it’s a boy/girl thing or a second child thing but without sleep it makes us loose our minds. After researching and speaking to many people it’s all normal. Of course unless there’s something medically wrong. Another year or two down the line and I think we should be out of the trenches. Plus there’s so much along their timeline of life, such as teething, growing/growing pains, sometimes ear infections. There’s getting used to this big scary word and I’ve realised they need their mums to help navigate through this big scary world. Also, as you say it sounds like he had a rough start with his arm etc. Things like that can affect anyone. Give yourself some grace and just think in a few years this will be a distant memory.