I really don't know what to do with this situation anymore and I can tell in many ways it's over
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@Jennifer Yeah,I can't be too mad I picked him. Not too good I'm saving but it's not enough to just leave and I just bought a car. He works out of town and work from home as well as take care of two LO's alone
He might be sad or drained though with having to work away from the family and missing out on that. I think men tend to feel the financial pressure more so I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing. It might be on his mind a lot that he can’t have time with his family and has to sacrifice that to provide
@Isobel That may be true but it's hard to believe. When he home he's constantly on his phone or watching tv and sometimes leaves and doesn't come back and if he does he'll be drunk.
Oh ok, that’s completely different then if he makes no effort when he is home. No matter how tired and drained he might be from work, you’d think he’d make some effort with his family when he’s back. I know it can be daunting to do things alone but I think it’s healthier for you and the kids for you to be happy than show them an unhealthy relationship. You deserve love, respect and someone who will work with you on things
@Isobel Nope. I even try to plan simple family outings and he says he doesn't want to be around people even though his job consist of him being alone and he's gone for days or weeks. I'm totally scared but I know me and my kids would be happier or that's what I hope. It's the unknown for me that worries me the most I don't want to mess up especially with my babies
You will not mess up by trying to give them a better future. I’m sure there will be difficult times but a happy home is better for your kids than seeing their parents together x
Sorry you’re going through this. What’s your financial situation looking like? Men are wired to provide financially and when they can’t, it’s literal hell dealing with them. Is he not working?