Boyfriend/ baby dad PISSING ME OFF

Am I in the wrong for being annoyed at this? So my boyfriend will say his going out to do something in the day take hours to do it but calls me to say I’ll be back soon etc, when he gets home he will be exspecting all the houses to be clean, and the washing to be done ( only dose his own if he was to do it) when he dose get back I’ll ask him to look after LO for 20 minutes so I can get things done like clean bottles, shower etc but never seems to go to plan as he will leave her in her chair and do whatever he wants even if she’s crying. Iv not been able to shower for the last 2 days due to him not helping out. His having to use my car atm due to him not having one so it’s limited what me and LO can do in the day, a walk around town is only fun for a little while. As much as I love having my LO 5 minutes to myself really wouldn’t go a miss!

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I’d be fuming x your car your rules and he’s a parent too you deserve to shower whilst he looks after HIS child x

Girl set some boundaries and take your car back. Unless if it's something important like an appointment he can figure it out. That's what responsible adults do. He doesn't have a car too bad. Save up for one. He is a childish narssacistic man. Sometimes love isn't enough. If he treats you like that now....how do you think he will treat your child? I have an ex husband similar to that and a decade later he is still the same. Wish you luck but sometime you need to draw the line. Give him certain expectations and if he doesn't change to keep his family then he doesn't really want it and his actions will show you. Sorry to be blunt but just allowing this behavior will lead to years of trauma. Been there and now have ptsd to show for it.

Everything Natalie said, but also if you have parents close by then when he gets home take your car and go take a shower, nap and time to yourself at your moms or a friends and force him to take care of his child at home without a car just like you have to do and ignore or silence calls and just tell him you’ll be home sometime soon. Definitely selfishness on his part.

No, he's not reliable or helpful. You should be able to leave your baby/child with their father worry free for up to a couple hours at least. And a guy without a car? Is he in the process of getting one? Why can't he afford to finance for a used car and insurance? (Like $600/mo payment and insurance). It sounds like you have TWO children.

You’re definitely not in the wrong for feeling annoyed—I’m actually going through the same thing, and my partner does the exact same. Says he’s going out for a bit, ends up gone for hours, then comes back expecting everything to be spotless. And when I ask for just 20 minutes to shower or clean bottles, it never goes to plan—he’ll just leave our daughter in the chair, even if she’s crying. And wonders why I snap I honestly can’t even count the amount of times I’ve cried from being so exhausted. It’s draining when you’re giving your all and still feel like it’s not enough—or like you’re doing it alone. You’ve already made so many sacrifices, like letting him use your car, which limits what you and LO can even do during the day. With everything you’ve been handling and your experience, you deserve way more support. Wanting a break doesn’t make you ungrateful—it makes you human. You’re doing an incredible job, even when it feels like no one notices. Your feelings are completely valid

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