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Husband watching through monitor

This might sound a little mad but here we go 😂 We recently installed a monitor above our LOs next to me in our bedroom. It’s linked to our phones and is always on. My husband works away for half the week and he has started to check the monitor when he’s away as he says he likes to be able to see our baby in real time when he’s missing him. One time he even spoke through the microphone in it (I told him not to do that again as it freaked me out!). Thing is that now I feel like I’m under surveillance in my bedroom- the monitor has our bed and some other parts of the room in shot. I just don’t like the feeling that someone can see me when I’m sleeping etc. There’s absolutely nothing sinister about my husband looking at our son- but I just feel like it’s made me feel on edge in my own bedroom. Am I being unreasonable if I ask him to stop or turn off the monitor when I’m in the room?

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I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask him not to . It’s one of the reasons I didnt get a monitor with an app. I feel weird if my partner is downstairs with the monitor and I’m upstairs. I always turn it off

I would turn it off when I don't need it on. I always turn ours off if I'm not using it to monitor my daughter. But I don't think it would bother me. I'd be probably more paranoid about someone random watching though 🤣 I understand why he'd want to see his son though when he's not there. I'd be the same.

I would say no if he comes back home everyday but since he is away he may want to feel home. He might be miss his baby

I’m probably the minority but I wouldn’t be bothered nor would I ask him to stop. My husband is working away right now for 3 weeks and he checks on the monitor on his phone. It’s comforting to him and he doesn’t feel like he’s missing out as much. He gets alerts if she cries and he tunes in to see her or talk to her. I don’t mind at all, he’s even recorded a few lovely moments of me reading to her. I don’t feel on display or judged same as I wouldn’t if he was in the room with me.

I personally wouldn’t be bothered by this but can also see your point of view. But like others have said he probably just misses his baby x

I may be in the minority but I wouldn’t be bothered at all - I would actually find it really lovely if I knew my husband was checking in on my daughter, you are completely entitled to your own feelings about it though x

Can you move it slightly so he can see baby but not see your bed as much? I don't think I'd find it weird unless I found out he was specifically watching me sleep lol - although my friend has a similar set up and I felt like a creep when she said their little one won't sleep unless he's basically strangling them in a cuddle and she showed me him and her partner asleep haha

We're buying a monitor soon but have been looking for one that connects to our phones so my partner can check in when he's at work. He adores our son and misses him when he's not at home. He works mainly from home but will be nice for him when he's out of the house. Maybe think of it this way, if you were to be away for a few days without your husband or baby, would you want to check in on baby through the camera?

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