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No, don't sacrifice your future happiness for money and material things, you only get one life! I left my ex of 12 years when I was also a SAHM, and we owned a house aswell. It's now been almost 6 years and I don't regret a thing. I went on to meet my now fiance, we have a house and a baby together, I also have a job I enjoy. You can do this!
Oh and my kids are fine, they're more resilient than we think. I won't lie and say it's always been easy because it hasn't been, but as long as you both communicate and co parent properly then your children will be fine.
@Francesca I had to stay in our house for 4 months after the split whilst I found a place to rent
It depends on the reason for the split I think, if it’s salvageable or not!
Get a job if you don’t plan on going to a shelter. I’m in the same situation for the past 7months. Have patience and record everything. I’ll be moving here in June. Praying. I just started working 3almost 4weeks ago
Go, but take a little time to get your ducks in a row and make a plan for moving on. (As long as it's safe for you to stay while you do this). Get some advice on housing, etc and make sure you have what you need for you and your children. Do you have friends and family for support? Xx
Hey lovely, there’s so much help out there for mummas who are in that type of situation. Don’t be scared to leave, you’ll be impacting your own mental health and put yourself in a worse situation than what you would be if you left. Leaving would be the right thing for you and your babies even if it’s rough for the first couple of months, you can do it mumma! If you need anyone to talk to please don’t be afraid to message me 🫶🏻
I completely feel your heartbreak — I’m in a similar place in my marriage, and it’s terrifying thinking about what leaving could mean, especially when you’ve been a stay-at-home mum with no income. The fear of the unknown can feel paralyzing when you’re trying to protect your kids. But my best friend reminded me that staying in something that breaks you slowly also impacts them — kids sense everything, even if we try to cover it up. And while the idea of starting over feels impossible, what if that’s where peace and stability eventually live? Not just for us, but for them too. It’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to not know the answer yet. But you deserve more than just “papering over cracks” — and so do your children. You’re not alone in this, I promise. I’m here if you ever want to talk it through with someone who gets it x
If yall need someone to vent i listen, i don’t interrupt. I don’t judge and I won’t tell nobody!!! I also won’t stop talking to you for what you are going thru. We all have something we are going thru
If you want someone to talk without judgement, please message me. I am concerned of all the people telling you to leave your husband without any context whatsoever. And perhaps there is good substantial reason, but no one dreams of marrying someone with the prospect of divorce and I’m certain that because of how torn up you are… if you thought there was a way to fix things… perhaps you would strive to have that marriage you dreamed of. Now I don’t know… but I’m happy to listen. I’ve co parented with an ex and my husbands ex, so again I have no judgement on the matter..: but I have also seen my marriage go from the being of extinction to becoming a fulfilling and wonderful part of my life when I was barely hanging on by a thread. If you want to talk, please message me. I would like to hear your story,
Get all the alimony and chilf support!!!
Do not leave the family home. It’s half yours.
Stay and save up a bit then leave
If your married then your entitled to half? And half of the house! You can stay in the house with the kids. Get yourself a job, take the money and make a life for you and your kids. X
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I'd only stay long enough to make a stable separation. Don't you get half in a divorce? I know THAT is a lengthy process and you might not be able to afford a divorce lawyer but he should be fair/amiable and be willing to help you and his children with temporary housing? Was the split his fault? Some marriages, the person who cheated etc can be held at fault. Do you have family you can lean on? Edit: "get a job" is easier said than done when min wage barely pays for daycare. Do you have family you can ask to watch your children?
It's difficult to say because everybody's situation is different. If he's abusive and you're at risk then leave. But if you're going to be living in a tent with your children and he's ok to live with temporarily then stay and make a plan to leave for when you've got somewhere to go and money. I'm back living with my ex husband because I would literally be on the streets so have no choice. I get lots of opinions about it but nobody actually understands the situation until they're in the shit themselves x