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I actually had the HV on Tuesday and she said babies get to a stage in development where they cry for no reason, as long as you've fed, burped and changed them then you've done everything you can. She said that the crying gets too much, put the baby down, in a safe space, and walk away for 5 minutes. If you have some, put some headphones on and chill. Then go back to baby when you're ready. Baby may even stop by themselves. Use this time to reach out to family and see if they'll come round so you can rest. Honestly, you're doing nothing wrong. Just some babies experience this development leap longer than others xx
You are doing great, I highly recommend trying Craniosacral fascial therapy (CFT)
Whatever you do, do not refer yourself to SS. Try the CFT first. Check in your local area if there’s private services for it. If not learn how to do the massages yourself.
Hi, just wanted to say I had the same experience with my first and he had silent reflux and cmpa (milk allergy). Have you considered either of these? My GP fobbed us off over and over again in n but we fought and fought for it (basically kept going back in every other day as we knew something was wrong) and finally got a GP who listened. We found carobel & allergy milk really helped but in all honesty time (4/5 months onwards) were the greatest healer. You are not alone, but make sure you ask for help. My in-laws used to take my baby out (screaming) for a walk just to give my brain a break.
I also have a colicky baby that cries a lot when awake. She has reflux and is taking omeprazole for this, might be worth trying this if you think he had reflux (or silent reflux). Other things that have helped calm down my baby is wearing her in a sling pretty much most of the day. If you know when he tends to cry the most, try to give him a bath before the witching hour, this has helped a lot with my baby. I’m not sure if you have tried giving your baby a dummy but this could be another thing to try. I feel your frustration though, it’s really tough when they cry so much. I hope things will get easier for you soon.
Firstly, You are not alone and you are not doing anything wrong. The fact that you have posted this message in the first place shows that you are a loving mum who just wants her baby to be happy. My baby cries every evening from around 5pm - 10pm and sometimes in the day she will wake up and just cry. Again, I have been told that she is a healthy baby and it is normal. I find that carrying her around in my fabric/sling carrier is the only way that I can settle her and get her to sleep. I know it is hard and trust me there are times where I just miss my old life but the odd little smile and the belief that things will get better, keep me going. Are you able to reach out to any family or friends for help? I find that just handing my baby to someone who I trust and going for a shower or a nap makes so much difference. Stay strong and know that things will get better even if it doesn’t feel like it at this moment in time!