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Hey mama idk what to do we have tried taking my daughters toys away from her for being bad but this the second time she has gotten a referral from school for doing something bad at school and she also keeps peeing her pants does any mama know what I can do to help her not be bad so much and we token away tv time and screen time to please help I don’t know what to do I’m starting to feel like I’m failing as a mom to my daughter.

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What is she getting the referrals for? And is the wetting herself a regression or something she’s always had trouble with?

Your 4 year old? What are the behaviors? Behaviors always have a function. What need is she trying to get met? Who's defining "being bad"?

What is she doing that's BAD? She's very young. Kids don't sit still. I don't think taking toys away will help. Kids that young don't process feelings and reasoning like adults do. She will only feel punished but not know why she's being punished. Find out more and dig deeper. It can all be a form of stress there.

She keeps hurting her friends at school

Are you able to go with her and observe? A lot of times "the second guy gets caught". There has to be a reason this is happening.

Did she ever hurt any kids with you around? Did you witness anything like that? Does she hit or bite? Or just runs into them without meaning, and they fall. I would think that's why teachers are there to monitor the kids and handle any situation.

I want to start off by saying that just because you’re having trouble with your daughter‘s behavior doesn’t mean that you’re a bad mom however I also want to say that I think that you should definitely do an observation day but also making sure that she doesn’t know that you are watching her. She’s four which means there is something that she needs that isn’t being seen or heard! As for at home try doing rewards for good behavior while also incorporating her good behavior at school. I study child education and child development and rewards for good behavior allows children to know that they’re doing good but also reminding her that she has something to look forward to when she is doing good. Make sure that you’re incorporating the fact that you shouldn’t have to tell her when she’s doing good because you want it to become second nature to her. As far the peeing that come with nervousness im sure they may be telling her she’s getting in trouble which in fact could trigger it honestly.

If you reach out to me I can personally give you a few ideas !

@Eva when we go to public places with kids she is nice to them

@Aleea no they don’t let us go into the school

@Kyla that's odd to me. Why are parents not welcome. Ick.

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