Middle name pressure…🥴

Just say we will decide when we meet her and leave it at that. Don’t feel pressured by anyone, mother or friend! It’s your choice, don’t let them take that away from you

Had that with my boy, in my husband family the men either have Graham or William in the name. We chose neither and 5 years down the road still happy

At the end of the day mama, it’s your child. Don’t feel pressured by anyone to put a name in that you’re not sold on.

Don't feel pressured into anything, and for people to put pressure on isn't right. If there are other middle names you prefer go for your favourite. It isn't their child, it's yours!

Thankyou for these replies!! I really didn’t want to be that ‘annoying’ pregnant lady who says “The name is a secret until she’s born” but I’m gonna have to be🥴x

The next time it’s bought up, just simply reply “we’re so undecided, there’s a few contenders for the middle name, so we will decide upon her arrival for what suits best” 🥰

You're definitely not annoying for keeping it a secret! I had advice before I had my son that people will have opinions about potential names but they won't about your actual baby's name (well they might but at least they won't generally say it to your face). It's only up to the parents what the baby is called and no one else so you don't need other people's opinions on it. I kept it secret last time between me and my husband and we're definitely doing the same this time!

I’ve stupidly ‘shot myself in the foot’ with it over the years and said “When I have a baby this is what I’ll call them” so everyone that knows me has memorised and knows a couple of the names on my list already😂 but now I have and am going to continue saying that we’ve added more names to the list and we won’t be telling anyone yet, it’s gonna be a hard pill for them to swallow because my family are incredibly nosy but..😂x

I do, but then I also WANT to give my kids those names. Each of mine has/will have a middle name from each side of the family. I love carrying on names and acknowledging important people, whether they’ve been lost or are still with us. But if i didn’t? I wouldn’t. It’s that simple. This is mine and my husband’s kid and no one else gets a say. I would firmly nip it the bud though. Say now. Don’t just smile and change the subject or she’ll think she’s got her way and then you’re more likely to have an argument about it when your daughter is actually born and you’ve got bigger things to think about. Save yourself the headache now and just say ‘not a guarantee. We’re considering lots of options’

Oh and we shared NOTHING about names, and we didn’t even find out the gender. Family had literally nothing to go on and they coped. It’s not annoying to keep some of the excitement to yourself, and spare yourself people’s opinions.

I was kind of in this boat before. My other half is called Michael, he’s the eldest son, his dad is Michael etc. We used another name cause there’s no shortage of names in the world, no need to call everyone the same name 😂 But I wasn’t really worried about disappointing someone, it’s our child and the child I carried, surely I get a say in their name, older generations had their chance at naming kids already. It’s not unusual not to know what you’ll name kids until they’re born, I’d just say you’ll decide when she’s here.