AiTA

Am I the Ahole I suffer from anxiety and had a baby 7months ago been with my partner nearly 8 years I was ment to be attending a group this morning to help with my anxiety my partner was ment to be helping I spoken to him several times in the last few days about how anxious I am so he agreed to come help me at 8.15 am with our daughter so I can get ready and sort breakfast and leave for 9.30 I have to ring him at 8.16 to see we're he is he hasn't even got out of bed our daughter is still asleep and we Co-sleep so I can't leave her and not fair to wake her so he says he will come up and sit with her while I get ready it's 8.30 before he even leave his bed at 8.35 I text saying I'm not going to make it so don't worry about helping then at 8.45 my daughter Wakes up so I ring him he does come up till 9 am then I tell him how upset his made me and he doesn't apologise just moans at me saying if I don't get distracted I could get both of us ready in 30 minutes so AITA?

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With such an unhelpful partner, no surprise you have anxiety. :(

@Jehan I had anxiety before we met and his not unhelpful I normally just have to ask sometimes it takes a little while but normally get help

Aw darling. I hope he changes but you are not the ahole. You asked for help and gave him plenty of time.

@Jehan thank you I wasn't sure if it was my anxiety making me the ahole

He is definitely the AH. He agreed to get up at 8.15 so he should have. I coslept with my kids and you should work on your ninja roll. If you ninja roll out of bed, you can leave your baby in the bed while you get ready ☺️

The change in plans would give me so much anxiety and anger. I’m guessing by this your partner doesn’t live with you and your child though?

My biggest thing is do what you say you’re gonna do!!! And yes I have anxiety

He's an AH for not doing what he agreed to do, but also I do think you could have got yourself and baby ready in that amount of time tbh. I got myself, my 11yo and my 11 month old ready to leave in 45mins this morning

@Ella nar I move and she wakes up

@Elizabeth he does live with us just because I Co-sleep with baby he sleep separately

@Rebecca I understand that but there was no way I could get her ready and her have breakfast and me have breakfast before we leave and get myself ready needing to shower

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