Boomer vs millennial parenting
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No one is saying boomer parents did EVERYTHING wrong Plus some boomer parents were actually good parents. My parents were. They were gentle parenting before it was a thing.
I agree. Hindsight is powerful. Millennials tend to look at what boomers did and deem as wrong (not all things) then they go the other direction to an extreme. Which to me is wrong as well. But the only way we will tell is when our children grow up and point out the things we did wrong! Everything has to be balanced at the end of the day.
I think emotional and psychological abuse were quite normal for boomers and I’m glad that’s something that we’ve chucked. Calling children names trying to control their personalities was awful. But the other stuff I agree about, specially treats and screentime. I think everything in moderation is good.
@Ella same, my dad was a very gentle parent waaay before it was a trend.
My parents (boomers) definitely didn't do EVERYTHING wrong, they actually did most things right! However, there are definitely things they did that I won't be doing, one being smacking my kids. I'll never smack my children, it's abuse and it doesn't actually correct behaviour!
Boomers definitely didn't do everything wrong. There are things that we can improve on however But i would bet my life that in 30 years when our kids are having children they will be saying "uh millennial parents were terrible, they caused me so much trauma!" 🙃😅 Guaranteed, we will just mess them up in a different way!
It’s like this for every generation. New studies are conducted and new experts have new advice and everyone just tries to do their best with the information we have. It feels quite hectic for us though because we have so much more information being thrown at us constantly because of social media
Just to make sure I am thinking of the right thing, boomers were born between 1946 and 1964. That would be my parents. Ehhhh. They were assholes a lot of the time, and I disagree with authoritarian parenting. At the same time, I liked my freedom. Kids back then were allowed to play unsupervised with tons of other kids. You really learned a lot that way, and it was fun. I wish people would stop parent shaming this generation of new moms. It stifles the kids when the moms are expected to hover and control everything. Just let the kids be kids. Boomers got that part right.
I’ve always done what I feel is right as a mother not what anyone else says 🤷♀️
I think that every generation should take what they feel their parents did well in their parenting and work on the things they think could have been done better. I don’t think one generation is wrong or right and I’m sure in the future there will be things I wish I had done differently, no one is perfect!
@Rebecca in my case I do feel like my parents smacking me corrected my behaviour (e.g. I can remember carrying on being loud and silly in the back of the car with my sister after being warned not to because it was distracting for the driver, and then being smacked on the legs which made us stop!) However it did make me feel scared (especially of my dad, his smacks were HARD 😪) and I wouldn't want my children to feel that way about me or my husband, so we won't be smacking ours. Overall I do feel my boomer parents mostly got it right.
I parent completely different then my parents did. But I don’t parent like many other millennials for the most part. My mom was a boomer my dad is the silent generation
@Jade this!
I’m 19, I’ll be 20 in 2mo. My first is due in 2 weeks and I’m going my parents route aka old school cause my brother and I turned out just fine. Only difference is I’ll change how unapproachable they were feelings wise and they kinda raised us with a stick up their asses. Hated it growing up, appreciate it now that I’m out in the world being a reasonable productive part of society
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Not all boomers have done everything wrong. Yet it's also our job to do better than they did. And grandma must respect the parents decisions. She is not the parents
This is really interesting thanks everyone for replying! I do want to add that I didn't say that boomers did everything wrong, it was just meant as a generalisation based on what you see on social media etc. I spend so many hours of my life trying to make sure I was following these so called "rules". Just wish I had learnt to go with my gut and what works for us sooner!
I’m Gen z and I have boomer parents. The things they suggest go in one ear and out the other. Too many times of “you had it and were fine” “we did it with you and you survived”
Every generation parents differently. And it's based on our experience. There are thong I won't do with my kids coz I remember how it felt. I don't parent based on what the internet tells me to do or what my parents taught me. I base it on my experiences as a child. And I think boomers were terrible parents. Bit maybe that's just the parents I was issued.
I’m doing most things the way my parents did because that’s what comes to me naturally and I find I’m wanting to do things the way they did without even knowing that’s the way they did it. And then I see stuff on this app that make me panic because it makes me think I’m doing things wrong but with some things I’ve tried doing it both ways and my way always worked better for my baby. I just do what I feel is right and I’ve stopped caring about what anyone else says now, way happier this way