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I'd tell him "you're not being a shit dad, you're being a shit partner, and this is your opportunity to correct that if you don't like being a shit partner."
I finally ended things 🩵.
This is a common problem on this Peanut you have noticed;( Im sorry this is happening to you, but I did the same mistake, we make babies with men who don't deserve a wife or children at all 💔.can you afford to get away from him for a few days and stay somewhere else and let him miss you and your child?
It has been a discussion in my house previously and honestly it’s hard to find the right answer. He works all day so does need some down time just like anyone after work but in that respect mums are basically on call 24/7 which isn’t sustainable. I read a thread previously where someone suggested the mum should start being ‘selfish’ and taking some time for herself and it made me really mad that a mum being allowed some downtime was considered selfish 😱
The message that men can can’t handle work in the house is absurd. It is the emotional labor that is required even if they lived on their own, they would still have to there is no excuse for this behavior and it is become acceptable by women all over the world and then they wonder why they are so unhappy it is not acceptable
@Octavia actually these men have enablers so these men would actually find someone else to do it whether it be a girlfriend. mom or maid. some men really can’t handle it .. to have the ability requires internal change and most men don’t want to change because they’re been raised to where they were accepted by their moms or whoever to be how they are.. this is why when the man moves out of his house and in with his wife his mother passes that down to the wife. However this is not an excuse and men are 100% capable of doing house work but they don’t see the value or don’t know how to and resort to just using work as an excuse. a man can learn to do house work if will just take time to unlearn that helplessness. THIS is why your childhood is Soo important
to add if you’re a stay at home mom, and your partner works a lot and he’s not home a lot. you are the primary caretaker of the home and he is the bread winner.. it is NOT one better than the other you both contribute to the home. if you feel like your house work is never ending there is an issue and you need to simply it. that’s the perk of being home you have more freedom maybe not financially but physically you can make your day as easy or as hard as you choose it’s up to you. don’t depend on him, you make your life simpler because he is not thinking of things that he feels is your responsibility. but like i said when he’s home it’s his turn to pick up the slack. yes we are stay at home moms BUT it’s not like the old days we have resources, pick up a hobby, go to school online, go out with your kids, put them on a routine and get a slow cooker. you can still live your life from home
I did, I learned that you have to make time for your break no one is going to do it for you. He works yes but when he gets home he should be able to be with her so you can get your rest too but if he works so much that you’re not able to do that dynamic then you need to be the one to figure out how you can make things easier for yourself. men can’t handle the house and working I’ve learned that. You need to think about what is truly important, how much things you can get done in the home without him for yourself and when he is there. for example grocery shopping you can do that without him, getting your nails done you can do it without him. However doctors appointments for you you will need him for that maybe. Idk how old your daughter is but if she’s an infant plop her in the playpen and do your chores. If you find yourself picking up all this crap off the floor, throw it away.